Only wants Mommy, when to be concerned?

Christina - posted on 03/13/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




My daughter is going to be 3 in july, she has always been a momm's girl, but it seems to be getting worse. I was home with her for the the 1 year, and she has been in daycare ever since. She is fine at daycare, but when we are home, she only wants me to do things with her. Granted I do most things with her on a daily basis, but when I ask her to do something with her father, she refuses. Some examples that are starting to concern me are, if she is taking a nap, and wakes up when I am not home, she won't let Daddy take her out of the crib, she just cries and repeats my name, she has stayed in there 15 or 20 min until I get home. The other day I ran out to the store, and left her with dad, she cried and yelled my name at the door. even last night, she wouldn't let daddy change the TV channel for her. When I ask her why, she just says, I want you. Not only does she want me to take her to bed, but she won't even say goodnight to my husband. I explain to her, that I can't be there all the time, but I will always come back. That Daddy loves her very much and will take care of her, if I am not there.

I am staring to worry why she has such strong feelings about this. Has anyone experienced this or had children want mommy only, all the time? I am looking for any suggestions, cause it is breaking my husbands heart, and making me concerned as to why?


Louise - posted on 03/13/2012




You need to take a step back and let your husband handle things sometimes. Let daddy do some baking with her whilst you are in the kitchen doing something else. let dad push her on the swings whilst you sit on the bench and watch. Let dad read her bedtime book as well as you.

She is not a baby any more and she knows what she is doing and that what she is doing is causing daddy to be upset. Get down to her level and tell her that daddy is very upset when she asks for mummy all the time. The only other thing to do is to be quite firm with her and firmly tell her to stop making all that fuss and daddy will do it.

It is not uncommon for a child to cling to one parent more than the other, and normally it is the mother, but you need to get on top of this now before it becomes suffocating for both of you.

Try not to cuddle her all the time rewarding her behaviour with your attention. When she starts to make a fuss ignore her and continue to do what you were going to do. In the case of not getting out of bed, tell your husband to just pick her up and tell her to stop being so silly mummy will be home in a minute. By letting her stay there she is controlling you both and not the other way around.

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