Please dear God help me!!! My heart is so broken and fear is within me...advice?????

Leah - posted on 03/06/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )




My stepdaughter has told me in detail about her father (my husband) molested her for 2 years almost daily. She has been angry for a long time and most people believe she is just lying...I just lost custody of my grandchildren because dcf was called...she has no proof but her story is so we are being investigated. She isnt pressing charges she just wants everyone to know...Pleas help me!!!

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Delores - posted on 10/14/2012




Hello times like these is when you must trust and have faith in God. I am so convinced that He will lead you to the truth. And you must trust what He reveals to you. Don't be afraid He will help you. I am so sorry for what you are going througj. But I promise if you tell God all about it He will provide you with correct answers. You see lot of times people think they can do things and get away with it and perhaps we can sometime, however, we can't never get away with anything with God. Trust in Him, and whatever was done in the dark will come to the light. All I can say is "REST IN THE CARE OF THE LORD" for He cares for you and your family.

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Louise - posted on 03/07/2011




If you believe her then you must support her. I know this means ending a marriage but how could you stay with a man that has done this. I also know what a huge life changing thing this is going to be for you, but hand on heart could you stay with this man knowing what he has done. I think there are somethings that are not forgivable. You have a major decision to make here. This is one of those decisions that means taking sides and if you believe that your step daughter is telling the truth then I am not surprised your heart is broken because you know deep in your heart that every time you look at him you will recall what the stepdaughter has told you. I send you a big hug and the strength to do the right thing. It is your life Leah chose carefully.

Kristin - posted on 03/06/2011




How old is your step daughter, is she old enough to know about the details without this happening? (meaning is she a child or an adult) Is there any reason she would start lying about this? Unfortunately it seems that this is something you have to take seriously. I know it's your husband and you can't believe it's happening, but be glad they got your grandchildren out of the house..just incase it unfortunately turns out to be true. Good luck.

Kimberly - posted on 03/06/2011




You are in a very hard place not only because this is about your partner but your stepdaughter also trusted you enough to tell you this. Please believe her, I have seen first hand what it does to a girl when they tell about abuse and people dont believe them, it destroys them. If she is lieing then that will come out but your have to support her til then. I'm very sorry this has happened to your family

Casey - posted on 03/06/2011




Your in a tough situation cause when you are inlove with someone like your probably inlove with your partner there is noway you can ever imagine them doing something like this and you won't ever want to believe it, but you need to take a step back and look at the situation from a different perspective without letting your emotions get the better of you and ask yourself was there any warning signs for example when she was going through this was she sad? angry? depressed? frightened? was his moods different? did he treat you differently? did your sex life and intimacy change? I have never understood how something like this can happen and nobody in the house knows about it cause there is always some kind of sign or change in peoples behaviour it's just that most people don't want to think about it because there to emotionally involved.
I agree with Jeannette you need to write down every little detail that she has told you so that if her story changes you have proof.
As sad as it is that you have lost custody of your granchildren maybe it's for the best just for the moment until things calm down and you find out for sure weather this actually happened cause if he did do this to her then the last thing you want is it happening again to one of your grandchildren.
Hang in there cause things are probably going to get really tough for you, but do try to not let your emotions take control of everything and try to look at the bigger picture.

Jeannette - posted on 03/06/2011




If it were me and my step daughter told me that in detailed i would believe her no matter what! You have to do everything you can to protect her even if she is your step daughter. Im sorry that you lost your grandkids over this but you have to believe her until they can say she is lieing about it. And what I would do is write down everything she told you i know that will be hard but it will also help if her story has changed any. Good luck and im so sorry that you all are going through this

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