please help ...

Leanna - posted on 02/09/2015 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Iam a single mom and my little girl is 7 years old and her father will not do anything for her ..He is also on disibility but can drink, smoke, and party ...dont know where to turn because he does not stay in one area for two long before living somewhere else...and he always told me i would never get child support from him because he is protected under the disibility act and at one time i believed that and now not so sure because i dont see how anyone can donate sperm and not have to pay to help raise a child ...not fair.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/12/2015

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SS disability provides for dependent children, IF they are notified of the proven existence of the kid.

If your ex(he's not a sperm donor...You chose to sleep with the guy. You did NOT go to a clinic for insemination.) is on SS disability, he can call his caseworker and add the kid. If not, and you have court ordered support, you can request that it be taken out of his disability...

Raye - posted on 02/12/2015

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My dad quit his job and got on disability so he wouldn't have to pay child support. I think it depends on where you live, because he was thousands of dollars behind when I turned 18 and he never had to pay it.

Should you file to try to get support from him... Yes.
Will you end up getting support from him... who knows.
Should you do your best to raise your child with or without his assistance... Yes.

Stop being bitter because you fell for a jerk-face and got pregnant. Get over it. Be an adult and think about what's best for your child.

Jodi - posted on 02/11/2015

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You fell for the oldest story in the book. That is still not a sperm donation. It's an asshole act.

I agree you shouldn't have to do it on your own. BUT depending on where you live, if he is on disability, you will certainly at least be doing it mostly on your own, unfortunately.If he is on disability, even if you did file, it probably won't be a whole lot.

You also fell for him telling you that you'd get no child support, rather than filing for it. You could try and file for it now, anyway. You'd have to prove paternity to do so, have you got proof?

Leanna - posted on 02/11/2015

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ok Jodi when i met him i was told that he could not have any children because he said he had cancer at one time and dr said he could not reproduce anymore and i had simply said ok because i do not want any more children because i had already had 1 daughter and a son who was deceased and wasnt wanting to have another child and that i could get pregnant and he said dont worry it wont happen ....but it did
so since it did i love my lil girl so much that i would not change it now but i should not have to do it on my own

Jodi - posted on 02/09/2015

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OK I am first up going to say this. He DID NOT donate sperm. Please do NOT put him in the same category as the men who actually do donate sperm. Sperm donors should be applauded because they HELP so many infertile couples. You can't now decide he wasn't good enough to sleep with. He was at the time. He's just a shitty father, but he didn't "donate" his sperm to you. He fucked you and ran. Let's get that straight. That isn't what sperm donors do.

On the issue of disability, it probably depends where you live as to whether you can collect from it. Here in Australia, you'd never get $500 off a father on disability.

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