PLEASE HELP!!!! My 14 year old is wrecking my marriage!!!

Shemeka - posted on 02/18/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My 14 year old is wrecking my marriage...we have moved to a new home and new school district. She was a straight A student even received a scholarship in the 8th grade and now she has gone downhill. Kissing girls at school, cutting class...being disrespectful and rude to the point that I have ask her dad to take her for a year!! I love my child and I just want the best for her...but I am not sure I am the right mother for the job. Can anyone please give me some pointers?

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Jodi - posted on 02/18/2015

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You remarried, move house AND moved schools. A 14 year old would see that as your wrecking HER life. Put yourself in her shoes here.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/18/2015

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so...without much background, I can only ask this: What kind of counseling did you, your daughter, and the 'new' family have prior to the blend? How did your daughter react to your boyfriend/fiance/husband during each stage of your relationship?

Honestly, the 'issues' as you've described them are fairly normal acts for kids in that age range. Nothing is a huge deal, from what I can see.

Kissing other girls? Oh, GASP!!! LOL...you'd probably better search yourself to see if you have the ability to accept your daughter's sexuality, if she is gay. She may be bi, or bi-curious...but anyway, that is the LEAST of your worries...She's kissing, after all, not hitting...

Cutting class...Pretty much every kid does...at least once. Doesn't make it correct behaviour, but unless she's skipping all day, every day, this is something that can be addressed through disciplinary actions (detention, etc) at school, and making up missed work, even for partial credit.

Being disrespectful & rude...well, again, pretty 'norm' for the age group, and should be handled appropriately with consistent disciplinary measures and consequences.

Other than foisting her off on her father so that you can have the 'perfect' marriage with your new man, what have you done to this point to address her behaviours?

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