Please help my 15 yr old daughter wants a party for her 16th birthday i did say yes but i now worried as obviously she wants alcohol which is illegal she is now not happy as i told her she can have the party but no alcohol she is angry and fed up i am at the end of my tether i really don't know what to do :(


~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/18/2012




How can she possibly be mad that you said no to alcohol at her party?!? What is she thinking?!? Tough shit that she isn't happy. Then she doesn't get the party.

Holly - posted on 10/18/2012




I agree with dove, tell her she can straighten her attitude up or no party. don't give in, you ARE the parent, and you better have A LOT of supervision (depending on how big the party is)


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Annette - posted on 10/23/2012




I have 3 daughters - 21, 18 and 15. Unfortunately, this one is a no-brainer. Telling her the drinking age is 21 obviously won't work but you need to explain to her that if you supply these kids with alcohol and something happens or you get caught, you (the parent) gets fined and could possibly go to jail. I don't know what state you live in but in Wisconsin, that's the way it is, although I still know several parents who don't see a problem with doing this. The consequences are just too great. I know you probably want to do what your daughter wants for her 16th, but this is a definite no-no. Good luck - I don't envy you on this one!

Barbara - posted on 10/23/2012




Who is the adult you or your child? At 16 years old you having alcohol at a party or you waiting to go to jail? Where are the responsibilities to your child and the children at the party? At 16 she gets to rule you? If she cannot be happy with a party without alcohol then she does not deserve a party at all. Why is she not happy with a party with friends and having fun stuff to do like dancing or games or just hanging out?

Mardi - posted on 10/19/2012




Thats ok,she doesn' have to like what you decide. Sometimes the most loving thing a parent can do is say NO. Because you love them enough not to fall for all that teenage BS.

In Australia, the legal drinking age is 18, and 16yr olds like to rebel and drink underage. I have had this argument regularly with my teens. The new laws help a lot, big fines deter even some of the bad parents.

Ariana - posted on 10/19/2012




Obviously she wants alcohol??? How is that obvious? What you should be asking her is why she needs alcohol to have a fun time and I would wonder about the parties/places she's going where she's so convinced she should have alcohol.

I would tell her that if she brings it up again then you'll just end up calling the party off and then walk away. This is not a discussion.

Dove - posted on 10/18/2012




Cancel the party. She's got a lot of 'balls' to think that you'd be ok throwing her a party with alcohol 5 years (assuming US.. my apologies if not) before it is legal for her to drink. As a parent I would be furious if my child went to a party and I discovered that an adult allowed and provided alcohol. I guarantee I would ban my child from ever attending another party thrown by that person.

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