Please Help!!!! Should I make my child go to her Aunts wedding

Natasha - posted on 08/29/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )




I have soul custody of my childern. There father has visitation every other weekend.Ok so here is my issue and I am so confussed. My Sister is getting married, she would like my children to pass the guest book around.However the wedding is ona weekend that they go with ther dad. My children do not want to go to the wedding they want to go with there dad.Everyone is trying to make me feel guilty, as i dont think I should make my kids go to the wedding, if they dont want to go.Someone please help me with this, do i upset my family and listen to my kids, or do i upset my kids and make them go to the wedding and not with there dad?


Amy - posted on 08/29/2012




In addition you could try and switch their weekend with their dad so they don't lose out on their time. But you are right to not force/take them to wedding since it isn't your weekend and they don't want to go.

Dove - posted on 08/29/2012




It's their father's weekend, so you send the kids with their dad. You don't mess with custody/visitation agreements unless both parents are in agreement on that. The fact that your kids would rather be with their dad is actually secondary here (though still very much important). You could always ask your ex if he'd be willing to take them to the wedding.

If your family is going to be upset at you for upholding your children's father's visitation rights in the best interest of your children.... that is their problem to get over and not your problem at all.


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Ev - posted on 01/25/2013




Kristin~it is the dad's weekend. He has the right to say yes or no to this and so does mom. She states that the kids want to go to dad's and not the wedding. Yes, its a family event but not all kids do well attending events like weddings where they have to sit still for long periods of time and have to keep their hands off things that could break. Kids also get bored at weddings. I know this from experience. My daughter's wedding had only her step brothers and baby half-sisters as the kids there. They were bored. There was nothing for them to do. My son who was 14 at the time was also bored but old enough to know better but he had a part in the wedding as well. He minded his P's and Q's. Forcing a kid to attend a wedding or other event is not a good idea especially if the kid has said they would rather not go but go spend time with the other parent.

Kristin - posted on 08/30/2012




I would make them go. I see it as family events are mandatory to attend. talk to dad and see he doesn't mind missing a weekend w them then see if he would want to take them two weekends in a row.

Lacye - posted on 08/30/2012




If it's their dad's weekend, and they don't want to go to the wedding anyways, let them go to their dad's house. Your family will get over it. Your sister can find somebody else to pass the guestbook around. Either that or she can have a pedestal by the door and the guestbook on that. They are your kids so ultimately it is your decision, not your family's. Good luck.

Natasha - posted on 08/30/2012




Thank You so much Ladies, your feedback is greatly appreciated. i know the kids dad would be willing to switch weekends, I was under the same thoughts, it is his weekend why should i make him loose out, he deserves time with his kids, and they look forward to going. He wouldnt want to take the kids to the wedding , cause it is a 2 hr drive to the wedding, Thank you so much for your help.

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