pls ne advice for my 11 yr old girl

Vanessa - posted on 07/20/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )




My daughter recently went on vacation to portugal with her uncle and his wife etc. 2 see grandma i bought her a book "all about my body" for reading material her uncle recorded her talking to her friends on facetime about blowjobs when they got back uncle told his sister and sister told me of course she had suggestions 2 punish her ughh when i talk 2 her she says i told my friend bout it cuz it was on the book and we were talking now my question should punish her? I of course talked to her and told her theres is a place a time 4 everything and she has ne question she should ask mom and dad am i being too soft


Dove - posted on 07/21/2015




This isn't a punishable offense. It's a learning one... for both of you. I advise YOU to read that book and then sit down w/ her and talk about what is in it and how it does or does not match up w/ your beliefs.

WHAT were they talking about in regards to blowjobs? Curiosity, disgust, or wanting to DO it. The first two are fairly normal, but if it is the third one she definitely needs a talk about how that type of thing (anything sex related) is only appropriate when she is much, much, much older... like an adult, preferably.

She does need to have a full sex education and be fully informed on birth control, STDs, pregnancy, and the emotional repercussions of having sex too young or w/ the wrong person.

Michelle - posted on 07/21/2015




It depends in what context they were talking about it. If it was general "would you?" or "It's disgusting" then I wouldn't punish her. Like you said, you bought the book for her.
I would also tell your Aunt to back off, you will raise your child the way you want.


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Raye - posted on 07/21/2015




It's a good idea for YOU to read any books like that before giving them to your daughter. That way you can discuss it with her to clarify what the book is teaching her and let her know what is appropriate. I don't think you should punish her. You should have several discussion with her about what she's read and who she talks to about such things.

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