Political Correctness -- what is it doing to our kids?

Lynn - posted on 05/08/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




When I was a kid, not only did the principal have a paddle, we kids actually respected the teachers, at least to their face so they could teach their classes. Only one kid was what I'd call ADD, and he didn't last long. After multiple disruptions, even after his desk was placed to the side of everyone else's, the teacher drug him by the ear to the principal, and we never saw him again. If a teacher was incompetent or abusive, we told our parents, they talked to other parents, and if it was agreed there was a trend, the topic would make it to the principal or the school board. Or, if the kid was alone and misinterpreting, their parent would nip the complaint in the bud and tell the kid what they needed to do differently. If kids were abusive, kids would talk among themselves, and if a bully got out of hand, they'd get their comeuppance, and everything was normal again. This usually happened during gym class, and the gym coach knew exactly who deserved what, and was fair. If two kids had a quarrel, everyone knew it meant a fight just after classes, and just before loading into the school buses. Everyone would rush out and form a fight area for the two in a quarrel. The bus drivers would count to 10, then start to walk out of their buses. You took the hint and loaded up, or the larger bus rivers would drag you apart, and you'd better load onto the bus immediately after that. No one needed to continue - a point had ben made that someone ticked someone off enough to warrant a fight. Everyone was involved in a good solution after that, and no adults were generally needed. Our bus drivers were parents of our classmates, and knew our parents (we graduated 70-80 kids a year). No one was stupid enough to keep fighting and involve the principal or teachers. Everyone had pocket knives easily seen in the outline of their jeans pockets. We needed them to get back inside our gym lockers to get dressed after gym, as they were always breaking closed. No one ever stabbed anyone. If someone thought someone insulted them, they'd say so, to that person's face, and if it was a misunderstanding, it was corrected. It not, meet me outside after school. No one tattle taled. Everyone knew that administration had no clue and their decisions were always not in anyone's best interest.

Fast forward to today. Today's new college kids and graduates will run to Human Resources the moment they think any of their coworkers is even implying something about them (such as giving an example of something happening to someone, resulting the similarly to the student, but with a different cause, and they jump to think that the parallel was implying their case was 100% the same, including the cause ... or asking a new hire for information to help them, but they interpret it as possibly gathering it to come after them technically -- such as let's bring our resumes and swap experiences and goals -- when the intent, hinted by management, was to get to know skills to see if they were a good candidate for a special overseas assignment). Instead of discussing it with the fellow employee, they immediately run to HR. Don't they understand that HR only cares about legal implications, and nothing good can come of it? And that all trust, or hope of future trust, is completely lost?

Are we raising children bred to insta-tattle on parents and coworkers? Isn't this going to undermine their ability to succeed? We used to not be afraid to confront someone and deal with issues. If it meant fists, so what. Now we completely avoid any and all confrontation and backstab our associates, even when no harm was meant. Is Corporate America today even more in control than the Third Reich, or the Communist Party ever dreamed?


Denikka - posted on 05/08/2013




I do agree with you that kids are not learning to deal with their own problems anymore.
I don't think that violence was a good solution in the past, but I do think that solving your own issues is something that needs to come back.
I don't think this is an issue of political correctness though.

There has to be some middle ground. I cannot remember a single fight in my elementary school (K-grade 7-roughly 500-700 kids in a given year), but there was minimal bullying because the other kids would step in and stop it if it got out of hand. There was some name calling and things like that, but nothing in compared to the bullying that occurs now. No kid ever committed suicide, the teachers and parents were almost never involved in ANY disagreements, about 95% of all issues were dealt with by the kids. And if the younger kids couldn't deal with an issue, an older friend, cousin or sibling was generally there to step in as much as needed.

You're right that people go to the ones in charge over every little thing now. Just recently, I read an article about a woman in the US who was suing the CRV for 1million $$ because an employee put a stupid remark in the description area of her receipt (Ching Chong Lee). There are many instances of similar cases.
Or cases of sexual harassment. You tell a coworker that they look good that day and you could have a huge lawsuit on your hands.
It's gotten to a ridiculous point. Even in legitimate situations. If a kid is getting bullied and they go to an authority figure, chances are, nothing's going to get done about it. So even if you do what you're supposed to do, you don't get the results that you should. And if you do what you're not supposed to-take matters into your own hands and dealing with it-you get in as much, or more, trouble than the one who originally started things.
It's all a matter of balance, and we've lost that in many aspects of the world. Try to deal with the issue yourself. If you are unable, then move onto the next step of involving someone else. There's really no need to jump directly to the highest level of involvement. That just escalates problems completely unnecessarily and causing more grief than it's worth.

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