..Potty Mouths..

Christina - posted on 04/16/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )




My son is very bad at repeating things that he hears. . i.e. bad words.. I cannot tell you the number of times that I have put soap in his mouth or threaten to put hot sauce.. I don't know how to deal with this anymore I think that it may just be easier to give up on this matter. but then this is going to come back and haunt me in the future.. I am going to be the mom with the 2 year old that curses like a sailor! I would greatly appreciate any advice given.. And just to verify my husband and I do not use this type of language; however that is not to say other people in our family do not use it..

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Diane - posted on 04/02/2011




OK two things. One the best thing to do is ignore it! Give him loads of attention when he doesn't use those words but just ignore it.

Secondly you need to choose who he sees. If people use bad language in front of him explain to them that you do not want that language used in front of your child. If the respect your request and cease cursing then they can see you with your child but if they don't then they can't. That's the only way to stop your child using the bad language because all children copy what they hear the adults around them using. It's not his fault - he hasn't chosen to hang around with people with potty mouths so he shouldn't be punished for it!

TealRose - posted on 04/02/2011




Hot sauce damages children's mouths - causes blisters and burning. It can also damage permanently their oesophagus and stomach lining. Both soap [that froths and chokes and kills children every year] and hot sauce are chemical warfare and dangerous and should never be used on a child. The fact you 'only use a drop' is not the point - it's dangerous ... Usually a child will stop using bad words when you stop reacting to it. And if you have people around him saying these words all the time, you are never going to wipe it out - THEY should respect your wishes and you should tell them to CUT IT OUT !!

Delora - posted on 04/17/2010




From my experience, the more grown ups make a big deal the more the lil one will too. Mine would do that as a way to get a laugh or become the center of attention(although we didn't find it funny there is usually always someone who will). What helped me, was to calmly tell him "We don't say that, its bad" I also have always told my kids "stupid" was a bad word as well. When he would say it trying to be funny, we would act like it wasn't a big deal, tell him calmly one time and then go on about our business.
Now he is finding other ways to get attention....Help us all :P

Marcy - posted on 04/16/2010




Again, he is 2 years old...not a teenager. If its the young kids in the community and you don't want him hearing that type of language then don't let him be around those kids. Think about this, he has been alive for less than 1000 days....the only thing you can do is explain to him that "Yes, those are bad words." and tell him 'We don't use words like that in our house." keep saying it to him over and over again. You sound like you are concerned but you did also write in your initially response that "you can't even tell how many times you have used soap." I don't care if its you or your mother, you are the parent.

Iridescent - posted on 04/16/2010




Our kids all know how to swear. They also know the words don't mean anything special, they're just words, and don't get any special reaction. So they're rarely used and never punished and it's not a problem. Of course children will pick up foul language; it's the words used with the most emotion when they hear it, and when they say it, most kids get the most reaction from their parents that they've ever seen. Who wouldn't use that language with those circumstances?

Kate CP - posted on 04/16/2010




Words have power when you give them power. Just tell him you don't like that word he used and it hurts your feelings. Then leave it at that. Don't put soap in his mouth and using hot sauce can actually cause scarring. Tell your other family members to leave the cussing for when the child isn't present. If they can't abide by the rules tell them to leave or, if you're visiting them, YOU leave. The only way this is going to stop is if you change the environment, not the child.

Abbie - posted on 04/16/2010




At age 2, I would ignore it, give no attention to the bad words. They all go through it at one point. Try to keep him away from people that use bad words, and I think in time it will get better. I also would not do the soap, he doesn't probably understand that weight of what he is saying, but he sure knows it gets a rise out of mommy!! I know you said you didn't do the soap.

Kim - posted on 04/16/2010




Axe the soap, you are putting chemicals in your childs mouth. I would first ignore it, don't react. Reacting is going to make him say it more. If it doesn't stop, tell him that he is not to say those words and if he says it again he will have to go in time out. I use time out with my daughter and it works. You have to use it properly and be consistent. Usually kids are looking for a reaction, don't react and see what happens. Also, when people are in your home tell them they are not to use those words. No one family or friends are allowed to use vulgar language in our home when our children are here.

Tina - posted on 04/16/2010




my son was about a year when he said ah shit. didn't know where it came from until one day i dropped something and he was right there. After that I watched what I said in front of him

Sharon - posted on 04/16/2010




1. I would stop associating with adults who can't control their mouths around a child. If they can't control their mouths, what else can't they control?

2. Ignore him. When he curses, don't react. He's enjoying the reaction as much as anything else.

3. The soap isn't working, let it go. Its time to try something new. TIme outs are appropriate.

Christina - posted on 04/16/2010




Just to verify: the whole soap thing was last kinda a last resort.. And my mom did that to him.. But either way it didn't phase him.. And its not just the family members that use that kind of language. I live in a community where it is alot of young people, and I don't know if they find it humorus or what. The problem is that I am concerned about my child and i want HIM to understnad that it is never "ok". When someone else does say a "bad word" he does acknowledge it; but he repeats it later.. Rather if its 5 minutes or a week.. He is going to repeat it.. I just want advice for helping him.. not judging.

Marcy - posted on 04/16/2010




Are you serious about the soap in the mouth of a two year old? Wow, I won't even comment on that. First off, he's two so his social circle is basically wherever you take him or you know who he is with right? He must be learning the words somewhere or maybe from the tv? He has no idea that they are bad words...he's two. I think its your responsibility to remove him from the situation that is causing him to repeat these inappropriate words/phrases. Tell your family/friends what is going on and that he is like a parrot and ask them nicely to please refrain from trash talk. Please really rethink the whole soap thing...obviously its not working! Little ones pick up on everything you say and do....they can't sift out the bad words from the good ones....

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