Potty training through the night

Michelle - posted on 02/22/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )




How do we get our 4 year old son to stay dry through the night? He's dry during the day...no problems. At night he wears pull-ups. Any suggestions???


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Cecilia - posted on 09/27/2013




I have to say that I agree at 4 it's normal. How you choose to deal with it is individual.

Put him in underwear at night. Let him know it's okay if he has an accident and he can wake you up if he does. Make sure you have a nice stock of clean pajamas and underwear ready.

You can buy waterproof sheets, (not that plastic stuff, that's a horrible sound to sleep on) I layered the sheets so you simply pull one off and the next is ready to go.

Then all you have to do is toss pj's and the one sheet into the washer and into the dryer come morning.

Never scold him. He didn't do it to make you mad. He did it because he couldn't help it. Be supportive through the process. If he constantly doesn't make it to the bathroom at night then feel free to use night pullups. Let him try it out to see if the sensation of being wet gets him going.

Ariana - posted on 09/27/2013




I wouldn't try to force it or do any tactics, it's totally normal for a child to wet the bed, as long as he's going consistently in the day.

I say this mostly because you don't want to try and push him to not wet the bed and make him feel bad when he can't control it. Plus he's only 4, I used to have night-time diapers when I was 4, and I can give you my word that I am quite practiced at keeping the sheets dry right.

I wouldn't worry about it right now, of course go to your doctor and ask them to check things out if you think there is a legitimate issue, but otherwise leave it be.

On that note you can always try to make sure he doesn't drink any water late at night if you think that's part of it. I know my son used to wet the bed the nights he drank water before bed and not the other ones. It was hard to tell him no for water later on but 1 I never refused him if he seemed legitimately upset or thirsty, and 2 once you've talked about it they usually get used to the idea and don't ask for drinks (and you can make sure to give them lots of fluids earlier on and remind them to use the bathroom).

But once again, try not to push it, he's only 4.

Megan - posted on 09/27/2013




Bedwetting under age 7 is so common most pediatricians consider it normal. invest in a couple pair of washable, waterproof underwearhttp://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?... this webpage has lots to choose from in lots of different sizes even waterproof boxers. And it is much less expensive than using pull ups. And use a waterproof sheet protectorhttp://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?... to minimize the laundry.

If bedwetting continues through the age of seven the bedwetting begins to chip away at a childs self esteem. A child who wets at night has a sleep pattern in which the brain does not react to the full bladder signal. A bedwetting alarm gradually trains the child's brain to react. My child went from being wet every single night to completely dry in about 6 weeks. The bed wetting alarm http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?... has given us years of dry nights. Also, a new medical study at Wake Forest Medical Center found that undiagnosed constipation is a major factor in bedwetting as well. So you might want to get the book "Its No Accident" ...http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20/...

My child absolutely loved the children's book, Prince Bravery and Grace - Attack of the Wet Knights http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20/... . It is the story of a young prince who struggles with "the Wet Knights" and eventually defeats them by using an alarm. It's funny yet empathetic and gave him the understanding and motivation to end the bed wetting. The best advice for parents about how to stop bedwetting I found is the book, Seven Steps to Nighttime Dryness, by Renee Mercer. Invest in the books-they make the process so much easier, then an alarm -its the best decision I ever made. Lots of positive information about bedwetting at this site www.braveryandgrace.com

Abbie - posted on 02/26/2011




I think you have been given great suggestions here, also to remember each persons bladder matures at different rates, and its NOT uncommon for a child to still be wet in the morning, if you don't wake your child and have them go to the potty. Many children sleep VERY sound and don't realize they need to use the bathroom. In some cases they dream they are on the toilet and will we the bed. Also remember to never scold or punish for wetting. Also at age 4 I don't think its unusual to be wet from time to time at night.

Bonnie - posted on 02/23/2011




My son is also 4 years old and stays dry all throughout the day. Most nights his pull up is wet. I'm just letting it take it's course for now. I have been told that many kids aren't trained at night until around 7-8 years old. Their bladders are too small and if they are deep sleepers it makes it difficult for them to know when to go.

Mary - posted on 02/23/2011




We had the same issue with our son. I was told to not put my son on my potty training schedule. As it turns out the advice was actually right because each child develops at different times when it comes to the sub conscious ability to hold back the urine. The bright side of this is, he is getting a good night sleep and that is healthy for him.

Amy - posted on 02/23/2011




We started training really early and she was potty trained completely during the day by 15 months old and during the night by 20 months. To tackle the nighttime, we limited fluids about an hour or so before bed (made sure she was well hydrated before then), let her start wearing 'bedtime panties' that are thick cotton training pants (nothing like diapers so they don't feel comfy going in them), and we would also wake her up to go on the potty about 2 or 3 hours into her sleep (kept little potty in her room, bed at 8, first potty wake up at about 10 then again around 2 - not fully awakened just put on potty as i whispered 'time to go pee on the potty'). This worked wonders and my daughter was fully trained through the night within a few weeks. After a week of success, we cut back on the potty wake ups and went down to only one, then eventually none. She's been dry since Christmas!! Good luck :)

Louise - posted on 02/23/2011




Restrict your sons fluid intake one hour before bed and encourage him to have a wee before he goes to bed. Then when you go to bed wake him up and take him to the toilet and then put him back to bed. He should really be able to hold his pee overnight now with the occasional accident.

I think first of all if he is always wet in the morning I would do the wake up before you go to bed with pull ups on and then once he is dry in the mornings then go cold turkey and take the pull ups off. You may be surprised if kids know they can pee and not get wet they often pee anyway, but they will use the toilet if they have to get out of bed to stay dry.

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