Potty Training ? !!!!! We have a new baby and now my 2 1/2 yr old doesn't want to grow up?

Melanie - posted on 12/24/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




My older daughter wants to be a baby so bad she doens't go in the potty yet. Before the baby came she went a pee once and poo once but now she is jelouse and wants to be the baby. She had given up her bottle and was learning to go potty. We do the potty dance and read books and give her fruit chews and we even have a baby alive we give water to and she pees in her own potty and we do this every hour as we use an egg timer to remind us to take her. We try very hard to make it an exciting happy experience for her but she still won't go. She is very sensitive and if we make her sit for to long she cries. I realy don't want to make her stay there and turn potty time into a negative experience as I already have a child with a bowel distorder stemming from fear of toilets. Any advice to make her think growing up is a good thing? PLEASE HELP!


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JuLeah - posted on 12/24/2010




yup. Most big brothers and sisters do this. Give her time and don't push. She really is just a baby herself.
Let her 'be big' She can fetch diapers for the baby for you when you change him/her. She can do a lot of big kid things and get all kinds of attention. Only in this way will she see it is safe to grwo up. Right now that baby gets a lot of attention that she knows used to be hers.
Show her pictures of herself at that age and let her see that you gave her just as much attention.
Good luck

Sabra - posted on 12/24/2010




If it's because she wants to be like the new baby tell her all of the things that babies don't get to do that you get to do when you are a big girl. (Like play at the park and eat cookies)
I know its hard when you have a new baby but you need to make time with just your daughter. It could be because your daughter is jealous of all the time the new baby gets with mommy and daddy. Let her know that little babies need lots of attention but it doesn't mean you love her any less.
As far as potty training goes just keep being persistent. Make a big deal when she goes to the potty maybe get a special book or toy that she only gets to play with when she is on the potty. If you have her in pull ups or diapers still try switching to underwear. Its more uncomfortable when she has an accident.

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