pregnancy after miscariage/stillbirth/neonatal death

Kerry - posted on 03/12/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )




i lost my son recently and was thinking of trying again in the future. how long did you leave it till trying again and how did you feel


Shanika - posted on 11/21/2012




hi everyone! my first baby was born at 38 wks oct 19 with severe birth asphyxia cause by medical bf and i have sooo many emotions!we're sad, angry(because it could of been prevented)Our baby is currently in the nicu with severe brain damage,she's in a coma and getting multiple seizures! doctors say if she does wake up she will have no quality of life( cant walk,talk,will need to be feed via tube) that we should take her off the life-support, although very hard i think thats the best decision! i jus think thats whats best for her and us......has anyone ever been in this position? also i feel sooooo guilty for wanting to ttc again,i dont wanna replace my baby but i jus feel so empty


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So sorry for you. I had an early miscarriage, and conceived again within 3 weeks (who knew the body could eh?). I deffinitely had issues with my emotions about the pg - but the baby we now have is fantastic (she really is a doll!). One nice thing somebody said when I was pg again was "if you'd had that other baby, you wouldn't have this one". Somehow that made me feel better. Again it was only an early miscarriage though, and everybody reacts differently to their losses...

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After my miscarriage we waited about 6 months, but only because of an insurance issue. I got pregnant quickly, but ended up with an ectopic pregnancy(nothing to do with my miscarriage). We tried again two months later and got pregnant right away and had a healthy baby girl nine months later. Make sure you're healed emotionally and physically. I was a nervous wreck my entire pregnancy and had a hard time enjoying the sweet moments. But I do look at her and think what an amazing gift I was given.

Jamie - posted on 03/12/2010




I am so sorry for your loss, I just miscarried on march 2nd at 7 weeks, we were told to wait 3 months but we aren't preventing it. I think its more for you to heal emotionally. If you feel ready then I say go for it, if not then take all the time you need. I had a miscarriage 2 years ago in May and 2 weeks later conceived my son so I am hoping the same thing happens again, only time will tell.

Alison - posted on 03/12/2010




I had a miscarriage in Jun of 07, I got pregnant three months later, had another miscarriage in Oct. of 07, and finally had a successful pregnancy and a son that was born in Sept. of 09. The doctor wouldn't tell me for sure but I'm prett sure my miscarriages happened because I had an indectected underactive thyroid. I will have the thyroid issue the rest of my life. The difference was this time I am taking medication for it and my doctors monitored me closely throughout my entire pregnancy to make sure everything was going the way it was supposed to.

Cheryl - posted on 03/12/2010




im very sorry to hear about that... i have personally never experienced that myself but i had a friend that had a still birth at 38 weeks. she waited 6 wks and then got pregnant again. its up to your emotions once you are cleared by the dr

Stevie - posted on 03/12/2010




hi kerry i had a miscariage in nov and i am now 11 weeks pregnant again we werent really planning on getting pregnant so soon we were aiming for trying again in sept but god has other reasons we just had our first drs app and we got a heartbeat so we know everything is going well now but for the longest i just tried not to get to excited i tried not to be stressed or lift heavy things but now after having my dr app im much more relaxed about it aside from the baby is due only a few days after my daughters 3rd birthday and a month before my sons second birthday i only had one period after my miscariage before getting pregnant again my dr had said to not try until after 3 months which would have been feb but oh well so far we have a very active and healthy little one growing but i knew i wasnt going to feel very comfy with it until i had either an early sono or got a heartbeat

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most doctors can give you a medical time frame when is best for your body to recover. But emotionally, that can be different for each person. You need to work that out with your partner.

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