Pregnant & my partner refuses to have any kids!!

Leesa - posted on 01/21/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




Hey ladies,
I found out I was pregnant. Spoke to my boyfriend about it and he refuses to have any kids with me. He thinks we will lose our house, he is injured and been off work for 6months+ and he may not return to his job. I have had an abortion once before (to him) and found it was so difficult to deal with it. We yell & fight ALL the time if we don't we actually don't speak for days!! he has 2 little boys already and I think life would be perfect as I would be connected. He would rather us be financially stable (just to be not for kids etc) and travel the world together and barely work. This is such a hard decision. We are very close to breaking up because of this, but I don't want to be another girl that has a kid to him. Im freaking out. His mum is on my side but he just doesn't want to see my side at all. Im scared of being a single mum (if I keep it) but scared of being miserable knowing I will NEVER have children of my own.
Please help me xxx


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Sarah - posted on 01/21/2014




SOO agrees with Jodi. U are really going to put a guy before your child and you?! If a guy really loves you he would not ask you to do that. If someone loves someone else they want to help the other person achieve their goals. They would not be requiring that person to kill their child so they could travel the u know how selfish that is?!! And really that is the type of person u want to be with?!

Jodi - posted on 01/21/2014




It's a bit late for him to say he doesn't want kids with you. You're pregnant. Why would you have an abortion for him?

Does your boyfriend not understand the risks of sex or something? Because this is not YOUR fault. It happens! You should not have to have an abortion because he thinks you could.

If I were in your shoes, I'd tell him to live with it (and if he can't he should keep his dick in his pants in the future because abortion is not a birth control option).

Sorry for my rant, but men who treat women like this make me angry. He has absolutely no right. If this breaks up your relationship, so be it. Do you REALLY want to spend your life with a man who can give you an ultimatum of abortion?

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