Pregnant with second baby and hubby doesnt want it

Roxanne - posted on 09/19/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




Hi there guys,

I am in a bit of a pickle. I am married, 28 and the mother of a beautiful 2 1/2 year old girl. My husband has been very open and honest about not wanting another one, even though I do. We recently found out taht I am pregnant, and Hubby does not want it. He is infact advocating for an abortion. I cannot fathom terminating teh pegnancy, especially because I am already amother. I feel like if I can do that I can put a gun to my little girls head and pull the trigger. I am devastated. I feel liek tehr eare no good ways that this will end. Either I will haev eth baby and he will alnd up resenting me and the baby, Or he will leave us. Or I will terminte and land up hating and resenting him for making me do it.

Has anyone else been in a situation like this?He has agreed to a councellor, but honestly I dont think it will make him see things my way.


~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/19/2012




There is no easy decision here. Personally (I do support womens rights) I would not be able to have an abortion if I was against it. What I would be concerned about is not JUST how my husband would feel, but how I would feel. You will end up being the one resenting him. If he is that much against another baby, he should take steps in finalizing his own birth control with a vasectomy.

I really wish you the best of luck, but if you feel you cannot terminate this pregnancy, don't let your husband make you.


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Vicki - posted on 09/19/2012




If he didnt want another child why was there no protection used so that pregnancy didnt happen? You clearly dont want a abortion so dont do it! Im glad he has agreed to a councellor :)

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