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Pretty set on unmedicated natural birth if I can help it, how bad is it really? My main concern is tearing, please share some experiences with a first time mom.

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Jennifer - posted on 06/03/2009

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It is all relative. After three completely natural births, I can honestly say that you do eventually forget the pain...... Each one was completely different for me but the labor pains, I equated with menstrual cramps magnified by about 100. The actual delivery was a relief, because your body wants to push the baby out. It is almost like the feeling of having to go to the bathroom really bad ans then the relief of pushing it out. (TMI? :) )
As far as the tearing, if your going to tear, it won't matter if you are medicated or not. With medication, you may be more likely to tear because you loose your feeling in the area and you may push harder because you can't feel it. With no medication, you can feel the area and you can control the intensity of the push there by "controlling" the tear. Your body will tear if that is what it needs to do.

I strongly recommend an all natural birth - imagine delivering a healthy and ALERT baby who responds to your voice when he/she is placed on your chest!

Donna - posted on 06/03/2009

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Honestly to me it felt like a charlie horse in my stomach with an intense urge to poop. In other words, not that bad. And I gave birth without pain meds, but needed medicine to help my labor along (Which I'm told makes contactions more painful than normal). Then again, every labor is different. Even a woman who has more than one child had different labors for each child, let alone different mothers

Susan - posted on 06/20/2009

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I had my son without anything. If you relax and know you are going to feel something (usually classified as pain) then you will be fine. when you feel the cycle of labour just breath deep and naturally stay calm. My greatest fear was tearing. My midwife was able to prevent me from tearing by using lube during the delivery. Lube is a wonderful thing! If you can suggest to the person delivering your child to use it, it would give you some relief and make the baby slide out easier. hope this helped!

Francesca - posted on 06/21/2009

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i had 2 epidurals as the first didnt work, the second didnt work either so i had a spinal block which did work, i was cut which i didnt feel and was stitched up. had 27 hours of very painful labour! i got B type strep which was very painful, and my stitches got infected, couldnt walk or ne thing, was admitted back to hospital after a couple of days of being out. ended up on medication for a month. he was back to back and i was induced. had nearly 3 hours of pushing and delivered him by forceps in the end. every birth is different tho. my friend had her 1st baby in an hour.

Amy - posted on 06/20/2009

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i had no pain relief and i didnt tear. And its not as bad as everyone makes out!

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Debbie - posted on 04/22/2010

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If you don't have three people yelling at you push, push, push when the baby crowns, and you have a midwife or coach who can help you breathe through the stretching process, you may not tear. Also, giving birth in a position other than flat on your back releases much of the tension on the pelvic floor and reduces the chance of tearing.
An unmedicated birth can be painful, intense, scary, boring at times (yes I said boring, waiting for the labor to progress in a hospital can be very boring), and you could have other feelings as well. Birth is a basically safe process, if your pregnancy has been followed and is low risk.
The two things that will increase your chances of having a well supported unmedicated birth are to use a midwife, and to stay at home as long as possible, even consider home birth. For a low risk delivery, home is usually safer than exposing yourself and your baby to the organisms that inhabit a hospital.
The thing with an unmedicated birth is that your body will produce the hormones designed to accompany birth, and when your baby is born, he/she will be alert. You will probably recover faster as well. I had 3 babies, 1 c'section, two vaginal, 1 on which I had some drugs just at the end and my last (and biggest) baby was completely unmedicated. It was the one I recovered from fastest, and had the best memories of.

Natalie - posted on 06/20/2009

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i teared with both mine and the 2nd baby was lighter than the first the stitches are worse than the tear itself but i had natural births apart from gas and air you will need something you dont feel the tear cos contractions are sooooooooo painful

Katie - posted on 06/19/2009

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I had an epidural with my first so and I am thankful for it it was a very traumatic labor I pushed for 5 hours and he wouldn't come out any further than to crown, I didn't tear but I did break my tail bone and ended up having an emergency c-section, it was kinda crappy but well worth it, I went completly natural with my second son I was only in labor for about a half hour just barely made it to the hospital and he popped out on his own just as I got on the bed. My contractions were pretty intense but right after the baby is out it really dosn't hurt anymore. I liked the experience of the natural birth more because I was able to get up and walk around right after and go see my baby in the nursery and shower!! although I didnt really have a choice with the first:( good luck either way and know that your not any less of a woman if you need the epidural.

Lisa - posted on 06/19/2009

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1st had epidural, didnt feel a thing, 2nd had an epidural, didnt feel a thing. 3rd had him 30 minutes after I got to the hospital no time for drugs,,,and it was horrible pain..the contractions feel like they are squeezing you to death..4th had epidural felt a little bit of pain..but wasnt bad at all.....my advice get an epidural...the first delivery is the longest..

Megan - posted on 06/19/2009

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its pretty bad... some people can handel it really If I wasnt in labor for as long as I was I might have been able to do it with out an epiderol but it all depends if your really set on not using medication then thats what you should do... you gotta just trust your instincts

Lisa - posted on 06/19/2009

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it's not bad...I did it twice and will again for my third this coming september. I just kept focused on the outcome. I did have to have stitches...didn't even know about it untill she said something about it. But she snipped it before it tore. Pretty sure it was the same during both deliveries.

User - posted on 06/19/2009

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Everyone is different so yours will not be anything like anyone else on this page. I gave birth to a 10 yes TEN pound baby. No meds no nothing but sucking on ice cubes. It hurt it also felt like you had to poop real bad. Some people do do don't be afraid or alarm if you are one of them. I had to get stiches I was rip from hole to hole(sorry so graphic). My advice is do it natural if thats what u want and enjoy every moment. Don't let our stories scare you.

Chelsi - posted on 06/19/2009

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i had to have certadil to start help induce, but if that had not worked i would have had to have pitocin. I went as long as i could with out oain meds and when I asked for them it was too late! I did tear a lil bit with my daughter (8 lbs 2 oz, 22 inches long), but the thing i loved best was after it was all said and done, I was able to immediatly get up and walk around and didn't have a druggy feel and I was able to enjoy my daughter all the more!

Zaharah-Monica - posted on 06/19/2009

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Lets hope you dont end up with back labor, i tried to go into labor without medication until the back pain hit...worst pain you could imagin....try sitting on an exercise ball during contractions and stepping in a warm shower helps relax some of the pain...good luck

Tracey - posted on 06/19/2009

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Its so nice to hear of someone who wants a natural birth. All the mams in my prenatal class were going for the drug option - I opted for the water birth (my baby came out before the bath filled up) I took my own mediation style music and oil burner, its all in the mind- be positive, be strong and remember all the pain is worth it when you hold that little baby in your arms!

Tanya - posted on 06/19/2009

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I have had 4 children all natural. I would recomend it and here is why.... everything gets better from the minute you bring your baby into the world it is trully painful but after the baby is born any other pains are less than the actual labor. My only other piece of advice is don't be a hero if you think you can not take it anymore than by all means take something. make the experience the most it can be. I also had hospital midwife deliveries with three of the 4 and I think that helps when it comes to getting an episiotomy or tearing they help to keep that from happening. I had very little tearing with my last two. and did not tear at all with the first two? I did not require stitches with any but the last one. A doctor delivered her.

Ingrid - posted on 06/19/2009

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Just remember giving birth has been going on for ttousands of years! We've only had real medical intervention for about the past 200. For hundreds of years babies came into the world au natural because there was no other option. I too decided to keep it as natural as possible, and I'm so glad i did. It gave me a chance to witness my husband being a remarkable support to me, helped me see what I was capable of, and I think something as momentous as birth is worth a little pain. Sure it hurts, but so what do you think it would mean as much if it were completly pain free? Be grateful for the medical times that we live in, while honoring womens wisdom born from thousands of births. Bear what you can, take help if you need it, go with your gut. Good luck.

Ingrid - posted on 06/19/2009

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Just remember giving birth has been going on for ttousands of years! We've only had real medical intervention for about the past 200. For hundreds of years babies came into the world au natural because there was no other option. I too decided to keep it as natural as possible, and I'm so glad i did. It gave me a chance to witness my husband being a remarkable support to me, helped me see what I was capable of, and I think something as momentous as birth is worth a little pain. Sure it hurts, but so what do you think it would mean as much if it were completly pain free? Be grateful for the medical times that we live in, while honoring womens wisdom born from thousands of births. Bear what you can, take help if you need it, go with your gut. Good luck.

Emily - posted on 06/19/2009

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I was totally committed to a natural birth, and my OB told me to "keep an open mind." I was annoyed that she kept telling me that whenever we talked about my birth plan. But sure, enough, after 20 + hours of contractions with nothing but BACK LABOR, I was still at 1 cm! The words "relax" and "breathe" were the worst that anyone could say to me, I was trying so hard to do both! I said out loud that it was the worst day of my life. So finally, I got an epidural. I immediately went from 1 cm to 5, and after another 90 minutes was ready to push. My daughter was born in just three easy pushes and I didn't tear. My recovery was extremely quick - I was hardly sore at all. But I still have pain in my lower back from time to time. So I echo my OB - keep an open mind! When you are in the throws of labor, all that matters is delivering the baby safely, so you'll do what you have to do in that time and space. Just say a little prayer to avoid back labor! It's bad stuff...

Heidi - posted on 06/19/2009

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I had a natural birth with my son.i went in be induced at 8pm friday night, but I had started mild contractions at 7pm. My midwife checked and i was 4cm already with no pain relief, went for a walk round the hospital grounds. Went back to the ward, had a bath, examined again, was 7cm still no pain relief. Was moved to the birthing suite, waited 2 hours before next examination, still 7 cm. Waters broken for me, pain intensified but i controlled it with gas and air. 1hour 45 minutes later my son was born weighing 9lb6oz. Minor tear, 3 stitches. I enjoyed it so much i'd do it again now if my partner would let me lol.xx

Sara - posted on 06/19/2009

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I had a natural birth with a midwife last October, it was wonderful! I think pain is only as bad as you perceive it, in other words, you have to understand that this pain is temporary and for the good. It was very painful, however it is nothing like you see in the movies. I was very prepared, thanks to a wonderul childbirth educator. I think every woman expecting a child, especially those who want a natural birth, should go to her class (even if it's not their first child). To find out about her classes go to Confident Birthing Childbirth Class on facebook, or www.birthandbodywork.com. She is a truly amazing woman and will help to make any soon-to-be mother confident in childbirth. Good luck, I know you can do it!!

Wendy - posted on 06/19/2009

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I was 18 when I had our first son and I was set, too, on natural....however, it was intense for me and I needed to be medicated. Don't concentrate so much on the tearing aspect because having a good midwife or nurse in there lubricating you as the baby is ccrowning is VERY IMPORTANT! I tore bad on the first delivery and my son was over 8lbs., but son #2 was welcomed a lot eaasier. The nurse I had during my delivery the second time lubed me really well as the baby was crowning and I had no problems at all. Just know what you want going into the labor and delivery and don't be scared to request anything! I wish you well.

Lea - posted on 06/19/2009

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Someone smart said to me: Remember this is what your body is designed to do. Honor it's power and know that as bad as it may get it's not that bad. There is an end to it. Keep that in mind through out and before you know it you'll have that sweet bay in your arms. This bit of insight help me through a 2 day ordeal drug free.

Jennifer - posted on 06/18/2009

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I would say that for my first, where I didn't get there in time for the meds to work so they wouldn't give me any.... not knowing she was turned in the wrong direction and was actually stuck for several unexpected hours... well, yes it did hurt very badly at the time but I dealt with it because I had no choice. It was doable. They gave me a little cut when they thought I might tear, which I felt and did not enjoy, but if I hadn't seen it coming, it wouldn't have been much worse than what was already happening. I do have to say though, the moment she was out, things (while not comfortable) were so much improved from the actual labor - you'd never think something could hurt that much one moment and feel so much better the next. But play this all by ear. Every time is unique. Don't beat yourself up if your needs don't correspond with your ideals when you go through it.

Denise - posted on 06/18/2009

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i had an unmedicated birth, because im allergic to the epidural, but its not as horrific as ppl put it out to be. i did tear and they had to cut me, i had a 9 lb kid... so that was the worst, but right at that moment you dont even notice, youre so focused and in tune with whats going on. but dont fret its a wonderful experience, it does hurt, but its so worth it! good luck

Brenna - posted on 06/18/2009

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I think it is a wonderful gesture to not have medication while giving birth. My mother had five babies at home with no drugs... However, on my own accord... in my experience the epidural is not really needed, by the time you are screaming, I mean, asking for it you will already be so dilated that you cant have it. I did have a drip to help me rest between contractions because both of my children were born in the middle of the night it seems haha! I always worried about drugs that were so strong that I couldnt feel what was going on with my body... with my baby. That is why I did not have the epidural. It just seems like a cop out to me, but that is my own experience. I am done having children, I have two beautiful babies, but if I did have another I would make the same decision again. Just keep in mind its your body and mind, so you have to do what you think you can handle. Just know...it does hurt.

Katie - posted on 06/18/2009

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I had two natural births and my husband and I plan on having 2 more kids and I will do it the same way. The fact that you are able to carry and sustain another life for 9 months is amazing and however you decide to bring that baby into this world will be the right thing because it was right for you. Labor is what it sounds like - work. There is extreme cramping and pressure but the good news is that when that little baby is out the pain is gone and you don't even remember it. The only thing that matters is that you now have the most precious thing in the world in your arms. I know that sounds cheesy but it is the truth. Just like pregnancy, labor and delivery is different for each woman - but if you keep in mind that the discomfort is only temporary, focus on controlling your breathing, you can do it and you will be fine! Best of luck

Deborah - posted on 06/18/2009

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Hi one of my main worries was tearing and stitches as the thought seems so awful! I've had 2 girls naturally and not needed stitches at all. My main suggestions would be:-

1) from about the last month of pregnancy,massage the perineum area daily with a plain massage or baby oil to keep the skin there supple and less likely to tear.

2) listen to the midwife when they tell to push or pant and not push!

3) the midwife did something at my 1st daughter's birth although it wasn't on my birth plan was that as the head started to crown, she got a small tub of warm water and tipped it over it slowly as i couldn't have a water birth. It really helped and she said stopped me from tearing then.

4) afterwards for a week or so I added salt and lavender oil to baths to help reduce swelling and soreness



I have scoliosis and had a spinal fusion so was worried I would need c section but you have to listen to your body. I only used gas & air, TENS and pethidine for the 1st and didn't get chance to get pethidine with the 2nd! Make sure if you use TENS to put in on before the pain gets bad otherwise it won't work.

Of course it hurts, but it is worth it and as soon as your lovely baby is born you forget all about it! Remember to breathe, don't panic and focus on what you are doing.

Good luck and hope this helps!

Samantha - posted on 06/18/2009

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I had my first baby on the second, I didn't do it completely unmedicated (it ws my plan but I chickened out at the last minute) I got morphine to help with the pain of contractions but by the time it came to actually push the morphine had worn off. I had to push for four hours and ended up having to get suction beause the baby had quite a large head (she was a pretty big girl... 8lbs 5.9oz) and I couldn't push her out on my own... I'm pretty fit too so it wasn't for lack of trying, she just wasn't going anywhere, Anyways the doctor told me about halfway through that most people don't do suction wtihout an epidural but in all honesty it wasn't that bad, just fell like I had to poop really bad. By the time things actually start happening you aren't thinking about the pain, just the baby and it really does make all the pain go away!! It's amazing. I tore pretty bad, but as long as you stay on the tylenol/advil then you should be ok.... and frozen pads are a lifesaver!! Good Luck!

User - posted on 06/18/2009

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i had really bad tearing first time and was told that when i was having my second to put baby oil on the area between your bottom and vigina and this make s it more elastic so less likely to tear, it seemed to work as i only had two stitches with my second ( i had 17 with the first and areas that couldnt be stitched) just really try not to push untill told to breath through the pain I only had gas and air with both of mine, try to be stood up or on your knees as this also helps due to gravity. let me know how things go.

User - posted on 06/18/2009

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i had really bad tearing first time and was told that when i was having my second to put baby oil on the area between your bottom and vigina and this make s it more elastic so less likely to tear, it seemed to work as i only had two stitches with my second ( i had 17 with the first and areas that couldnt be stitched) just really try not to push untill told to breath through the pain I only had gas and air with both of mine, try to be stood up or on your knees as this also helps due to gravity. let me know how things go.

Jennifer - posted on 06/18/2009

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I had no problems with mine. Like Donna said intense urge to poop. Arrived at hospital at 5:30am, doctor broke my water at 6:30am and 7:21am bouncing baby boy 3802 grams (8lbs 6oz) and 21 inches long. I did have some tearing but it was not the tearing that bothered me it was the healing of the tearing and the itching. I never started my mat leave until four days before my due date. Worked till Saturday night and had him on Wednedday morning and back home Friday afternoon.

All the best on your choice and remember it is your choice to make.

Holly - posted on 06/18/2009

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I've had 4 children, all basically without meds. My first, I had Demerol, but it really did nothing for me--except make me dream between contractions. With my second, they gave me Demerol, but he was born within 30 minutes of the meds, and it hadn't even begun to work yet...the doc wasn't ready, I had no episiotomy, and my baby was broad-shoulders sideways, so I ripped badly. That really was the worst one for me. When my 3rd was born the doc did an episiotomy and repaired the damage done with the 2nd when he stitched me up. He and my 4th son were both born with NO meds at all, with episiotomies, and recovery was incredibly fast! I've been told that episiotomies are bad, but I must say my experience says that ripping is far worse than a few stitches! But if your doc is prepared and knowledgeable (mine for my 2nd was NOT!) you should be able to make it through without meds or episiotomies, as long as everything is progressing as it should. But, honestly, it's your body and your baby. You do what feels the most comfortable for you, and it will all turn out okay--no matter what, the baby is definitely worth the minor hassles of childbirth! And if you've ever had a spinal tap go bad, then you know that childbirth is nothing compared to that kind of pain!

Holly - posted on 06/18/2009

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I've had 4 children, all basically without meds. My first, I had Demerol, but it really did nothing for me--except make me dream between contractions. With my second, they gave me Demerol, but he was born within 30 minutes of the meds, and it hadn't even begun to work yet...the doc wasn't ready, I had no episiotomy, and my baby was broad-shoulders sideways, so I ripped badly. That really was the worst one for me. When my 3rd was born the doc did an episiotomy and repaired the damage done with the 2nd when he stitched me up. He and my 4th son were both born with NO meds at all, with episiotomies, and recovery was incredibly fast! I've been told that episiotomies are bad, but I must say my experience says that ripping is far worse than a few stitches! But if your doc is prepared and knowledgeable (mine for my 2nd was NOT!) you should be able to make it through without meds or episiotomies, as long as everything is progressing as it should. But, honestly, it's your body and your baby. You do what feels the most comfortable for you, and it will all turn out okay--no matter what, the baby is definitely worth the minor hassles of childbirth! And if you've ever had a spinal tap go bad, then you know that childbirth is nothing compared to that kind of pain!

Erin - posted on 06/18/2009

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i've heard that borage oil helps if you use it 4 capsules orally and 2-4 vag a day for about the last trimester. my personal experience is that i didn't dialate until i had epidural. my water broke and so i was having the practically dry contractions for like 6 hours. after 9 hours of labor they finally gave me one. the contractions aren't as bad before your water breaks and right after, they are definitly bareable. but with no fluid or little fluid they are much worse. good luck. :)

Pixie - posted on 06/18/2009

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My experience comes from having one completely natural birth, and having medication practically 'forced' on me with the second. With my first born, I had a water birth, with absolutely no medication. It was the most wonderous experience, and even though I was terrified of what the pain might be like, I can honestly say that it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be!! I didn't tear either...

With my second born, I had to be induced, and because labour wasn't coming on fast enough, my doctor eventually told me that he was going to give me a shot of pethadine...To thid day, I still don't remember what happened after that!! I didn't experience the instant bond with my second born, that I had with my first born. I don't even remember how my second child was eventually born. All I remember, is one minute I was in labour, the next I had a baby being given to me...If I could take back time, I would have my second child completely natural too!!!!

I am now pregnant with my third child, and plan on having a natural, home birth. I want no more to do with doctors and their views on medication during birth, as I do not want another doctor telling me I have to have medication.

Us women are designed to birth our babies unassisted, and have for many centuries been doing this, without the help of medical intervention!! I have read LOTS of studies on medicated births, and have found that there are more complications since the intervention of medications...Complications like C-sections, mom's being more stressed, and thus needing assistance to deliver their babies.

I also read a beautiful article in a local magazine about pregnancy, that states that the body releases it's own pain reducing hormones, that don't get released when medication is given to the birthing mom...

I cannot tell you how to deliver your baby, but I can advise you to try a natural birth...Our bodies are designed to do this, so why not trust your body to do what it is capable of doing...

Sincerely Pixie

User - posted on 06/18/2009

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my first child was with no pain relief at all it wasnt planned that way but thats the way it happened i did tear but at the time i didnt feel it i wont say it wasnt painful cause it was it doesnt last long though my first born was 8lb 3oz if anything it is more uncomfortable after if you do tear but use essential lavander oil it works a treat hope this helps in some way

User - posted on 06/18/2009

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my first child was with no pain relief at all it wasnt planned that way but thats the way it happened i did tear but at the time i didnt feel it i wont say it wasnt painful cause it was it doesnt last long though my first born was 8lb 3oz if anything it is more uncomfortable after if you do tear but use essential lavander oil it works a treat hope this helps in some way

Pixie - posted on 06/18/2009

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My experience comes from having one completely natural birth, and having medication practically 'forced' on me with the second. With my first born, I had a water birth, with absolutely no medication. It was the most wonderous experience, and even though I was terrified of what the pain might be like, I can honestly say that it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be!! I didn't tear either...

With my second born, I had to be induced, and because labour wasn't coming on fast enough, my doctor eventually told me that he was going to give me a shot of pethadine...To thid day, I still don't remember what happened after that!! I didn't experience the instant bond with my second born, that I had with my first born. I don't even remember how my second child was eventually born. All I remember, is one minute I was in labour, the next I had a baby being given to me...If I could take back time, I would have my second child completely natural too!!!!

I am now pregnant with my third child, and plan on having a natural, home birth. I want no more to do with doctors and their views on medication during birth, as I do not want another doctor telling me I have to have medication.

Us women are designed to birth our babies unassisted, and have for many centuries been doing this, without the help of medical intervention!! I have read LOTS of studies on medicated births, and have found that there are more complications since the intervention of medications...Complications like C-sections, mom's being more stressed, and thus needing assistance to deliver their babies.

I also read a beautiful article in a local magazine about pregnancy, that states that the body releases it's own pain reducing hormones, that don't get released when medication is given to the birthing mom...

I cannot tell you how to deliver your baby, but I can advise you to try a natural birth...Our bodies are designed to do this, so why not trust your body to do what it is capable of doing...

Sincerely Pixie

Karla - posted on 06/18/2009

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I had two natural births with a cesarean in between. The pain is tolerable and instantly goes away as soon as your baby comes out. The recovery time is awesome and honestly, I would not have had a natural birth after my cesarean if the first one was unbearable. Good luck

Letasha - posted on 06/18/2009

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I had my first daughter feb 2009 i had a epidural but it didnt work i felt everything except when they gave me they cut me so i wouldnt tare i got a shot but that was it.. the pain wasnt that bad .. all i cared about was seeing her for the first time .. thats all you will care about. its the most amazing thing you will ever go through ,

Tracey - posted on 06/18/2009

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I had three natural unmedicated births and although painful (think of it as the longest worst period cramp you have ever had) you are completely over it once the baby is born. There is no post surgery recovery or drowiness due to the drugs and less complications. You dont feel the tearing and the healing happens without you knowing about it. I highly recommend a water birth though. The water really helped me with regards to pain.

Lucy-Anne - posted on 06/18/2009

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i wouldnt rule it out! you will never know how the birth will go! my sons birth was only 20mins from start to finish, i never had any pain relief, i never got a chance!

Try and have the birth you want but life has a funny way of throwing you of course

Tanya - posted on 06/18/2009

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I'm not sure that I would relate the pain of child birth to that of a poop....lol!



I had all 3 of my boys naturally with not so much as a tylenol. The fact of the matter is is that it does hurt and you DON"T ever forget. My boys were delivered by a midwife and they are under the belief that as women, our natural instinct is to mother. Your body will tell you what to do and your body (and baby) will tell you when to push. Drugs or no drugs, if you push too soon you will tear. Take it easy, try to stay calm and you will be fine. Make sure you have someone that keeps you as relaxed as possible and is able to help you refocus (this may not be the baby's dad). Having an extra person in the room (my sister) that was there just for me not only benefited me, but it allowed my husband to focus on the delivery and was less stressful for him.

The other nice thing about no drugs is that within minutes after delivery I was up out of bed, showered and able to fix myself a snack. I actually had an increased amount of energy and felt great.

You'll do fine.....There is nothing more beautiful than the very first time you look into your baby's eyes:)

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I had my 8lb. 3 oz. daughter naturally and di tear, and would do it again. Childbirth is supposed to hurt, and honestly, I think the rest of the pain masks any tearing that happens. I did not tear a lot, but didn't feel it when I did. The stitches were inconsequential. As you're holding your baby on your chest and they're stitching you, you won't notice. I almost freaked last minute, when the doc said because of my baby's head size she'd be at least 9 lbs. Apparently she just had a big head! The expression that the mid-wife used that I will never forget is the "Ring of Fire." As your body is stretching, like it's made to do, it feels kind of like someone putting a hot branding iron on you, but trust me, as soon as the head pops out, the rest was a breeze. And now, 7 years later, I can say that I am glad I did it naturally, in part because I was able to get up and shower and walk around immediately. I didn't have to wait for anything to wear off. We were made to do this, so although the pain is intense, we were made able to handle it. Enjoy ;-)

Naiidine_watts123 - posted on 06/18/2009

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My labour was pretty straight forward, i had my daughter wen i was 13 n athough it was pretti long i didnt have any pain relief like kim sed as long as u try to remain in control it should go smoothly, i didnt have any tears or grazes, my daughter was 7.7 lbs concentrating on something like doing hip rolls on a gym ball when you get a contraction helps ease the pain as its all about concentration.
Gd luck ....xx

Kimberley - posted on 06/18/2009

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Hey im 17 and i had my little boy 9weeks ago i wasnt that big and he was born 6 lbs 13oz i planned a water birth but when i arrived it was happening so quickly i had him in 4 hrs with no pain relief i just led down on the mat in the birthing suite with my partner led behind me and i squeezeeed him so tight and i just breathed and relaxd i never pushed when i started needing to which helpd i made sur ei was in control completely and when it got to the point i knew i was ready and i knew my baby wwas ready to come out i just took my time and pushed slowly but surely and i didnt have and tearing just a few grazes ...goodluck xxx

Monica - posted on 06/18/2009

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My labors were all unmedicated births. It was wonderful. They did however give a local injection at the site of my episoitomy, so there wouldn't be any tearing.

Ami Louise - posted on 06/18/2009

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The best thing you can do Chanine is go in with a plan of what you would like, BUT be open about it all and happy to go with the flow. I (as a mother of twins) didn't know from one week to the next how I would give birth as it all depended on how things were going with the babies, so I was prepared for natural and happy to have a cesarean. In the end I had a planned section and for me it was great. I knew what was going to happen, when, i felt no pain (until afterwards - but it doesn't last long) but I have a friend who was determined for a natural no medication birth and she ended up being induced into labour after being 5 days late and then had to have a c-section due to complications mid-labour and now, because she was so set in her ways before, she's really suffering post-nataly with depression about it all... SO... in my opinion, being open-minded is very important. It worked well for me and I had a great birth. ALSO - don't be afraid to ask for things. They may all seem busy and rushed at the time, but they are there to help YOU, so if you want something or have a question just ask. xxx Good Luck xxx It's all just my opinion, but I hope it can help you a little in your decisions.

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one of our midwives held warm compresses down there to prevent tearing -- and i didn't tear at all.

Tara - posted on 06/17/2009

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stick it out as long as you can, but baby it's really intense. it's not like you won't make it through it though. just remember you're not giving up if you do take some medication, the meds don't really work when it comes to pushing anyway. and with tearing, well i had a 4th degree episiotomy, i was glad the doctor 'made room for the baby' rather than letting him tear me, cuz he had a 18 in head!!!

Mnica - posted on 06/17/2009

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I gave birth at home with a doula and my N.D. I am SO glad I did it that way! I tore, but it's not like I could tell with the big head coming out of me. (Really, it's not that big of a deal) If you like me are worried about the pain - don't be. By the time your due date rolls around you won't care anymore. There is one point during labor that is the hardest (transition), but once you make it past that you're good. I took a Bradley birthing class and it was great to know what to expect. Highly recommended for you AND the father (or whoever will be there with you during delivery) The more I read and learn the happier I am of my choice to do a natural birth, it is so important in the bonding process. Make sure you get to have the baby with you right after birth. It is the sweetest thing in the world! I would LOVE to give birth again, I just don't ever want to be pregnant again. I hated being pregnant.

Rainey - posted on 06/17/2009

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I took the bradley method with our first and had a completely natural hospital birth. It worked so well that now I teach it. It is a great way to acheive a natural birth. It is a 12 week course and being educated really helps to deal with the tension and fear that can sometimes accompany birth. We had our second baby at home (on purpose) and of course it was completely natural. It was a much more intense labor than the first but I wouldn't do it any other way. check out bradleybirth.com to find a teacher in your area.

Julia - posted on 06/17/2009

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There's no brownie points for going with a natural birth, so if you decide to get an epidural don't beat yourself up. After like 20 min. of being in Labor I was so glad to get an epidural. I slept a lot, watched tv, and was able to enjoy the day. I went in at like 5:00am and had my daughter at 4:28pm. During the last 30 min. I was watching America's Funniest Videos and was laughing.

Lauren - posted on 06/17/2009

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for me, the worst part was the contractions..pushing wasnt bad and i didn't tear at all.if you have a good plan to get through the contractions you'll be fine but i suggest being at the hospital instead of a home birth, that way if you cant handle it and want an epideral you have that option.

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