Problems with my exes girlfriend

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My daughters father has been seeing this girl off and on for the past year and a half. She is constantly giving him bad advice and he listens to her. He used to help me with medical bills that weren't covered by copays and now he refuses and tells me that's what I get child support for. I have already talked to her and told her she needs to mind her business but she says its not her its him. We broke up 7 years ago and never had any problems with him until she came into the picture. He drinks and drives with my daughter and her 2 kids and she's sober! She even convinced my ex to press charges on me when I slapped him for drinking and driving with my daughter. I was in jail for 2 days. He stopped calling our daughter and has not seen her in 2 1/2 months. I text him about her and he doesn't reply. Has anyone ever gone through this. I feel like she is trying to sabotage my daughter's relationship with her father and the idiot believes her lies. She has never liked me and talks about me like she knows me. I just don't know what to do!


Michelle1544 - posted on 11/02/2012




You shouldn't have slapped him . I might have done the same thing in the heat of the moment but obviously it was a bad decision . I hope you never allow him to drive a car with your child in it again if you suspect he might drink and then drive again.

There's not much you can do to control his relationship or how influenced he is by someone else. It might be time to go to court and get parenting plans and support in writing.

Joanna - posted on 11/02/2012




As long as he is helping you out financially (child support), I'd do my best to ignore any side drama concerning his girlfriend. And the next time you know that he has been drinking and is driving the kids around, do the right thing and call the police. It's up to you to be the bigger person, rise above petty drama and show your kids a good example of a responsible adult. They will thank you for it later (and you'll thank yourself.)

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I did call the police because he was 3 hrs late and I did tell him he was drunk and guess who gets in trouble. So I did do the right thing ans got nothing out of it.

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Wow... First of all I'm not in his business. Second he has put my daughter in danger many times and I just couldn't control my anger that day. I would do anything for my kids. Third he was abusive towards me when we were together so yeah I was on defense mode. Maybe u should try being a little bit less critical and a little more helpful.

Holly - posted on 11/02/2012




you need to get out of his business... move on, he is a dead beat dad, but HELLO YOU SLAPPED HIM, you deserved to go to jail... yes, he should not be drinking while driving... she should be driving if she is sober... but you are in the wrong too.. if he is such a horrible dad, be glad he is gone out of your children's lives.

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