protection of unborn baby

Lisa - posted on 07/22/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




I am due in two mos. If the dad of the baby has moved on with someone else even before me and him were broken up and she is not a good person, can I not put his name on the birth certificate so that it would help me with my rights at this time. The dad and gf are not good people and he didnt want a part of this pregnancy or me. I think he got bored because I was a good mom to be and stayed home and ate right and never partied. He wanted this girl who does party alot! But now says he does want to be part of the babies life and often threatens court to me. That is why it is obvious that he didnt want me. How do I protect my baby so that I call the shots and make sure he is not around alcoholics and bad people especially this girl. I was so scared I even got an std test because she does not have a good reputation and since they moved on so fast I worried.


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Taylor - posted on 07/23/2012




Dove is correct on both points right here. I think in most states that a single mother is considered the only parent until a father establishes rights. You also really can't do much if he decides to take you to court over it. Unless their is proof of alcohol abuse on record that won't even be a factor.

Dove - posted on 07/22/2012




You probably don't have to put the father on the birth certificate since you aren't married, but if he is serious about taking you to court... it won't matter whether his name is on the certificate or not. He is the father and he will have rights. Exactly what rights will depend on your state laws and what he does or does not fight for. That baby has two parents and whether or not you like or trust the man... it's not the baby's fault you chose to be involved with him. Your baby has a right to know who his father is and to develop a relationship with the man. Once the baby is born... you can't call all the shots unless the father truly wants nothing to do with him. That's not how real life works..

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