Raped at age 4. Talking about it at age 17.

Mara - posted on 11/05/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )




My son was raped at age 4. Now he is talking about what happened-He is 17 years. He asks me a lot of questions. I try to give him the information he asks but being cautious because he wants to confront the man that raped him.

When he was assaulted by a 16 year old, he didn't talk a lot about what happened. The case was so grouse that he 16 year old was convicted as an adult.

Now that My son is remembering, he told me that the 16 brother was present watching him being raped. The brother was not prosecuted because my son didn't say anything at age 4.

What can I do??..The brother took part on this rape also.



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Priscille - posted on 08/19/2015




Hi Mara,

I think Sarah makes some very insightful comments.

17 is across the age spectrum where young adults starts noticing things of a sexual matter with more interest. It probably the reason why he is asking more questions about it now and why he remembers more about it.

It is important that he doesn't get stuck in this assault and injustice that happened to him and is able to move on with a healthy emotional life that he deserves.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/05/2014




His brother? or the brother of the perpetrator? If it was his brother...I'm not sure, except to facilitate his communication to his brother and not let his brother be in any physical or other contact with him (other than that communication/confrontation). And counseling may help. I'm not sure if a family attorney would be any help or not, but I'd certainly consult one.

If it was the brother of the perpetrator, help him confront, get him counseling, and get a restraining order against that person.

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