Ready to give up on crawling :-(

Colleen - posted on 09/30/2009 ( 24 moms have responded )

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Feeling ready to give up on teaching daughter to crawl :-( she's almost 10 months and still has NO interest! I give her tummy time and she just ends up scooting backwards and getting stuck under the piano bench screaming! She loves to stand though - thinking maybe we should just focus on that and she can go straight to walking... that maybe she doesn't need to crawl... But I have heard that crawling is an important developmental stage both emotionally and physically (for developing fine motor skills for example, you need that pressure on the hands?) Anyone know anything about this? Anyone have any tips on how we can get her to start crawling without pushing her too hard - it's gotten to the point that every time I put her on her tummy, she cries cause she knows what I expect of her, I guess. She used to love tummy time until I tried to get her to move! I don't want this to be a negative thing!

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I have to disagree about crawling not being important. I have a niece and nephew who both had vision issues (we're talking at ages 7 and 9 or so) and problems with reading and part of the therapy (google "vision therapy") involved them learning to crawl... both with each hand moving with the opposite foot and with each hand moving with the same-side foot. The differences this stuff made for them were amazing!

If she continues to not crawl, I'd at least make sure you're doing activities with her that cross the midline. So when you're playing, make sure her left hand touches her right foot, right leg, right hand, etc. It will help to connect the two sides of her brain.

Best of luck!

Amy - posted on 10/01/2009

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my son never crawled! he was 11 monthes and he decided to just get up and walk.... dont worry :)

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Karen - posted on 10/05/2009

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my sister scooted around on her butt until she was over 2 years old(my mom could give u how many weeks and days lol). my mom got worried when she didnt crawl or walk and the dr said she will when she was ready. she never crawled and one day said walk daddy and my dad went yeah right and continued to read the paper and she got up and walked lol. there is nothing wrong with her or her motor skills either. if she doesnt crawl dont worry she doesnt need to

Armintha(Angie) - posted on 10/05/2009

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I believe that my 2nd child didnt crawl, and went from pulling up to walking. So maybe focus on standing and walking. For crawling may not be in the cards for her.

Emilie - posted on 10/05/2009

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Although crawling isn't a huge neccessity of her development, "tummy time" is. Just let her enjoy herself and keep it relaxed, because she picks up on your frustration, and that take the fun out of it! My son went from the backward scooting to crawling at about 10 months, and walked very soon thereafter. So, no worries! Just relax while you can!!

Jayna - posted on 10/05/2009

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Many babies dont crawl at all! My Goddaughter scooted and then went right to standing and was walking by 10 months! I would try to take some of the pressure off her. Cut back on tummy time if it's crawl-centric. Instead, let her bounce in an exersaucer or have her practice standing. These activities build the core muscles too! Take a post-natal yoga class...you can bring your baby to class as long as they are not crawling and can learn some fun movements and activities to do together - plus you get a good workout too! =)

Lauren - posted on 10/05/2009

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well to be honest, if this is of any help, my boyfriend and i both skipped crawling and went straight to walking according to both of our parents!

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She'll crawl when she's ready. My son was pulling himself up and standing before he crawled. I thought that he would skip crawling and go right to walking. He only crawled for maybe two months before he walked.

Kathryn - posted on 10/05/2009

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Learning to crawl will be her doing, there is very little you can do to teach her. Perhaps putting something she really wants in front of her might help, but it may also frustrate her! She will get it when she's ready.

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can she roll to and from her tummy by her self? may leaver her sitting on the floor by her self on a nice blanket put some favor toys cup ect just out of reach in front and go out of sight and see what she does. I have all way said do teach the babys LET them learn my boy had walker ay 5 6 month and play time on the floor and both them crawl and then walked .. good Luck

Stacey - posted on 10/01/2009

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All babies are different, dont stress about it too much, I have heard of some babies skipping the crawling and go straight to walking. If she is not crawling or walking when you take her for her next immunisations/ check up then mention it to your doctor/ child nurse.

Tara - posted on 10/01/2009

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Quoting Katherine:



Quoting tara:




Quoting Katherine:





Quoting Jenifer:

Crawling is not considered a developmental milestone. Actually babies are tending to do it later or not at all now, as a result of the 'back to sleep' campaign. Since babies spend a lot less time on their tummies than they used to (even with tummy time), they are developing skills in different orders. Some crawl first, some walk first. I wouldn't worry about it. Don't push her too hard. Try placing toys just out of her reach, and encourage her to grab at them.









I agree, this back to sleep has actually hindered crawling.  My 6 month old sleeps on her stomach because she has acid reflux so bad.  Her pediatrician freaked, but you know what?  It's in the best interest of my child and she is crawling.  I wonder if they've done studies on this?????  The repercussions of BTS.












I just wanted to say my daughter slept on her tummy and my son on his back and they both crawled at the same age..I think it depends on how much time they are allowed to spend on their tummy a day. Which for me I know I did this every second i could for them because of the benefits associated with it. My son has bad reflux though so now he sleeps on his tummy,









I'm still curious to know if studies have been done.......





That would be an interesting read. Something I'll have to look into.

Katherine - posted on 10/01/2009

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Quoting tara:



Quoting Katherine:




Quoting Jenifer:

Crawling is not considered a developmental milestone. Actually babies are tending to do it later or not at all now, as a result of the 'back to sleep' campaign. Since babies spend a lot less time on their tummies than they used to (even with tummy time), they are developing skills in different orders. Some crawl first, some walk first. I wouldn't worry about it. Don't push her too hard. Try placing toys just out of her reach, and encourage her to grab at them.







I agree, this back to sleep has actually hindered crawling.  My 6 month old sleeps on her stomach because she has acid reflux so bad.  Her pediatrician freaked, but you know what?  It's in the best interest of my child and she is crawling.  I wonder if they've done studies on this?????  The repercussions of BTS.









I just wanted to say my daughter slept on her tummy and my son on his back and they both crawled at the same age..I think it depends on how much time they are allowed to spend on their tummy a day. Which for me I know I did this every second i could for them because of the benefits associated with it. My son has bad reflux though so now he sleeps on his tummy,





I'm still curious to know if studies have been done.......

Tara - posted on 10/01/2009

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Quoting Katherine:



Quoting Jenifer:

Crawling is not considered a developmental milestone. Actually babies are tending to do it later or not at all now, as a result of the 'back to sleep' campaign. Since babies spend a lot less time on their tummies than they used to (even with tummy time), they are developing skills in different orders. Some crawl first, some walk first. I wouldn't worry about it. Don't push her too hard. Try placing toys just out of her reach, and encourage her to grab at them.





I agree, this back to sleep has actually hindered crawling.  My 6 month old sleeps on her stomach because she has acid reflux so bad.  Her pediatrician freaked, but you know what?  It's in the best interest of my child and she is crawling.  I wonder if they've done studies on this?????  The repercussions of BTS.





I just wanted to say my daughter slept on her tummy and my son on his back and they both crawled at the same age..I think it depends on how much time they are allowed to spend on their tummy a day. Which for me I know I did this every second i could for them because of the benefits associated with it. My son has bad reflux though so now he sleeps on his tummy,

Katherine - posted on 10/01/2009

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Quoting Jenifer:

Crawling is not considered a developmental milestone. Actually babies are tending to do it later or not at all now, as a result of the 'back to sleep' campaign. Since babies spend a lot less time on their tummies than they used to (even with tummy time), they are developing skills in different orders. Some crawl first, some walk first. I wouldn't worry about it. Don't push her too hard. Try placing toys just out of her reach, and encourage her to grab at them.


I agree, this back to sleep has actually hindered crawling.  My 6 month old sleeps on her stomach because she has acid reflux so bad.  Her pediatrician freaked, but you know what?  It's in the best interest of my child and she is crawling.  I wonder if they've done studies on this?????  The repercussions of BTS.

Tara - posted on 10/01/2009

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You just have to let her do what shes going to do. Tummy time and crawling is very important for their speech and what not but if youre really worried about it swimming can help build those same muscles and skills. Good luck.

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you can't teach her to crawl, she'll do it when she's good and ready. Stop pressuring her and just enjoy her as she is, she'll soon be a busy toddler and you'll be missing the little baby who used to lay on the mat and play with her toes. :-)

Lind - posted on 10/01/2009

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My son never did crawl, just pulled himself around with his arms. He got tired of that, so I bought him a toy shopping cart and he used it to balance so he could walk,

Tiffany - posted on 10/01/2009

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my son did what your baby is doing for months, slide backwards to get around. then one day, he just like sorta went forward a little. then a litle more, and in about 2 days he was crawling. HOWEVER that lasted like 2 weeks, then it was up and walking around furniture and such. if he forgot he couldnt walk, he'd walk between the couches, but if he thought about it... he'd fall. your baby is fine, and believe me, keep them small as long as possible. once they walk, its all over. into everything

Phoebe - posted on 10/01/2009

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my partners much younger brother didn't start crawling until he was about 14 months, and then only two months later he was walking. She might also just be a bum-shuffler

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You just have to let it happen. Don't put pressure on her, and don't put pressure on yourself. Continue with tummy time, but make it about playing together, not crawling. And the scooting backwards is a stage towards crawling too. My son pushed himself backwards for a few weeks before he realized that forwards was an option (at just under 10 months). Praise her for going backwards as she's probably feeling pretty proud of herself for moving around on her own. I really don't think you need to worry about 'teaching' her to crawl or walk. Babies learn these skills on their own as part of their natural development and curiosity..absolutely encourage her and give her the opportunity to learn it, but don't stress yourself out too much about when and if she will. She sounds like she's well on her way to running around the house, and she'll be doing it when she's ready. Don't give up on her though! She'll do it!

Jan - posted on 09/30/2009

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I have 4 grown up children, they all crawled at different times. I agree with Jenifer, its not a major milestone. My son used to scoot along on his bum rather than crawl! My 2nd daughter walked at 9 months, my last daughter did'nt walk til she was 18 months, so don't worry they all get there in the end. x

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Crawling is not considered a developmental milestone. Actually babies are tending to do it later or not at all now, as a result of the 'back to sleep' campaign. Since babies spend a lot less time on their tummies than they used to (even with tummy time), they are developing skills in different orders. Some crawl first, some walk first. I wouldn't worry about it. Don't push her too hard. Try placing toys just out of her reach, and encourage her to grab at them.

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