reflecting on my son becoming 18 tomorrow and going off to college

Terese - posted on 04/26/2016 ( 1 mom has responded )




Yesterday on my way to my office I saw a little boy that reminded me of my son when he was that age. The memories came flooding back and so did the feelings of guilt. I worked full-time as a therapist working with teens and my husband was battling brain cancer, eventually losing his battle and raising a beautiful little girl who is now 13. I always put my family first, like many moms do, making sure never to work late and devoted my weekends to family time. Took them to the park, children's museums, playgroups, Gymboree, my gym, fencing, etc... while taking care of my wonderful husband through his battle and many appt's, MRI's and treatment. I know I did my best, as a therapist I remind parents that they do their best. Now my son is going to a great college 3 hours away and while I am proud of him, I also have a heavy heart because he is leaving. I won't be able to kiss him goodnight or hear about his day, or complain that he left his wet clothes in the dryer. Where did the time go? I was so busy juggling so many balls in the air that I didn't enjoy it and savor it. I was too busy surviving and taking care of everyone and now it is a blur. I am so sad and my eyes are filled with tears. My son has told me that he will miss me and that he is sad to leave us too. He wants me to drop him off at his high school before he graduates so that he too can have a final day when his mommy drops him off. Where did it all go? It is just a blur....


Ev - posted on 04/26/2016




I understand your pain of starting to have an empty nest. But our kids are supposed to someday fly out of the nest and embark on their own journey. Do not feel guilty that you had to earn the money for the home to stay a float and that you had to work. Feel good about the fact that your kids love you and they kow you did what you had to do. He knows. He may not say it but he knows. And you taking him to drop him off to graduation before it starts is exactly what I did with my son. He got out of the car and put his shades and cap on and I took the best graduation picture of him ever! He looked so cool. He now works at a plant and lives with his dad's mom (his grandmother). You are able to keep in touch these days with Skype or video chat (I did that with my daughter on occasion), write snail mail and send it, send care packages and so much more. It is a beginning and and ending at the same time. Congrats on your son's graduation and his college.

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