Regret the father of my children

Lala - posted on 10/24/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )




I love my daughters I move haven on earth for them i just regret their father I have been tired physically emotionally and very angry at him for the past 6 yrs I have put up with his emotionally abuse while I was pregnant and after I did all the work in taking care of the girls at night during the day and he still expect me to open my legs to him even though I was tired no help from him nor his mother since I left him I feel this weighty has been lifted off my shoulders any body else had the same problem or worse hope not


Raye - posted on 10/24/2014




I'm sorry you had a bad relationship, and wish you luck moving on with your life without him. With high divorce rates and many single parents and step families, you can rest assured you are not alone. Many people regret their choice of partners, and it is still difficult after you break up when there are kids involved. The other parent will still be in your lives, forever, even if they choose not to participate. And it becomes more challenging if they do participate, because you have to deal with them almost daily for visitation, school related issues, health related issues, and so on, and so on.

My mom and dad divorced when I was 6 due to my dad being abusive and cheating. Mom and I moved to a different state. Dad never wanted much to do with us, and when we talked on the phone, he would try to turn me against my mom. I saw him twice since the divorce, the second time being when I was about 14. After a six hour drive, I wasn't even invited in to the house. He also didn't want anything to do with his other kids he had from a marriage before my mom. My half sister still tries to get his attention and approval, even 30+ years later. I don't know why she tries, as I gave up on him long ago. So even when the father is not around, it still can affect the kids.

Again, I wish you luck. And I hope you raise strong girls that recognize the tough decisions you made and respect that you wanted a better life for yourself and for them.

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