Repeat Kindergarten? I need advice!

Tamara - posted on 03/16/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )




My son's birthday is in September and he started Kindergarten this year. He did 2 years of preschool and we felt that he was more than ready and he has ready enjoyed going to school. We had parent/teacher conferences this week and his teacher asked if I would considered holding him back. NO! I said. He is at the reading level he should be to move to 1st grade, knows all letters counts to 100 etc. Problem is his writing. He doesn't hear or speak all the correct sounds which isn't uncommon for kids in his class. examples L's could be confussed as W's, T with P, F with TH. So when he writes a sentence I would say 30% of the time there's no words at all just letters. He did speak late, after age 3. He's being evaluated at school and will start speech next month. I feel that the speech sessions will help him and once he starts hearing the sounds correctly, his writing will take off. I'm I setting him up to fail by insisting that he go on to first grade? Please any input would help. Kindergarden is not what I remember!


Tonya - posted on 03/16/2012




Hi Tamara, I went through the same thing with my son. His birthday is also in September and had been a very sturctured daycare where they were learning colors and alphabet. So when we moved to a small town I thought he would be ready for kindergarten. He was 4 when he was enrolled in August. He also had delays in speech. After 1/2 way through kindergarten his teacher recommended holding him back because he was behind some of the other kids, and did not blend as well socially. My husband and I both thought there was no way we'd hold him back eventhough we felt a bit pressured by the school. During this time the school did have his speech tested and he did qualify for additional help. But we all agreed to let him go to the first grade, however about 1/2 way through the first grade it was the same thing, he started falling behind. The first half of the school year they usually review the previous year so we didn't notice him faling behind till later. It was at that time the school convinced us to hold him back. It was not without weeks of thinking it through luckily we had the summer to decide. We thought telling him would be horrible, but it wasn't bad as we explained why we were doing it. Then we thought what would the other kids do or say. So we made sure to work with the school staff to ensure any teasing was immediately reported. And you know what...? It was the best decision we've ever made. He got to be the big shot in 1st grade again and that extra year of maturity made a world of difference. He's now in second grade and is no longer on an IEP and his teacher has nothing but good things to say about him. I recommend working as closely with your sons school as possible and don't feel like they are ganging up on you. They just want to give your son the best chance at an education. I hope this helps.


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