reunited with my grown sons

Kat - posted on 10/05/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )




I have reunited with my sons recently after being separated from them for many years. they were still babies the last time I had them now they are all growing into young men. my oldest will be 20 this month and my middle just turned 19 and my youngest is 17 turning 18 in march. I love them very much but feel so confused about having them back in my life because so far we have been having a lot problems with our relationship and how things are being run at my place now which is not my place now. they are disrespectful and very messy. they feel they don't have to listen to me because they are 'adults' now and I feel like I cant because they are not my little children anymore. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!! PLEASE HELP


Michelle - posted on 10/05/2014




You need to let them know that if they want to live under your roof then there will be rules that EVERYONE has to live by. Let them know that it will be a big adjustment for everyone but with communication and a bit of give and take it can work.
You do have to respect that they are now adults but every house needs rules for both children and adults. You may even need to draw up a roster for chores until they realize that everyone is responsible for keeping the house clean and running well.

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