scared of the potty

Danielle Elaine - posted on 07/16/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )




My little boys 2 and 8 months and due to start playgroup in september but He wont use the potty!!! I cud scream Tried everything .. He just wont sit on the potty or the toilet and screams and wud rather wet himself n leave him in it for like 10 mins to annoy him but He just crys and does it again helpppppp


Natasha - posted on 07/16/2014




I have personally potty trained two boys. Potty training is not easy but there are ways to get through it. First off we would start shifting by saying things like "ok your a big boy now and you need to start using the potty like one. There is going to be no more diapers and you have to switch to a pull-up or underwear". Lots of that talk. Then you can put on inspirational video's on potty training like "The Potty Dance" videos that sing song about going on the potty ...My boys loved that. Also my first one did not want to sit on the potty either..very hard for me. So what I did is I sat him down and held him there and just talked him through it. If your child cry's or is screaming or is trying to get up, then just tell them "listen, this is a good thing.You need to learn how to pee and poop on the potty now. Just stop your crying and sit there and the sooner you stop your crying and just sit here for just a little while with out crying while mommy sits here with you....then the sooner you can get up and go play for a little while. The more you fight against me though the longer we are going to sit here...its up to you." They will stop crying, see that it is not so bad, see that you are right there beside them, and the next time you go to set them on the potty it should go smoother and smoother each time you do it. After that when they are not afraid anymore you could sit them on the potty while in front of their favorite cartoon or while eating a food they like and they will forget they are sitting on the potty. The very first time they go pee on the potty---PRAISE them up and down, point to it and say things like "I am so so proud of you, Mommy is so happy. Then let them see you dump the pee in the potty and let them flush and talk about it all day. Eventually they will want to sit on the potty..even if they don't have to go.
Hope this helps..Good Luck.


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Serene - posted on 07/16/2014




When i potty trained my son I Immediatley put underwear on him. Any time that he went potty i rewarded him with a sticker. I made a sticker chart; he loved it. When he would have an accident I would let him sit in it and he'd end up changing himself. I even turned it into a game. I wold throw cherrios in the toliet and tell him to hit it with his pee. He liked it. Don't forrce it on him, i'm sure he'll let you know when he's ready. You may have to change plans, but you should always have a plan B in affect. At least you know that its NOT stressful situation when you have other options planned.

Sarah - posted on 07/16/2014




Right now you are trying to make it your accomplishment and putting a time limit on it. DO NOT DO THAT!!! It is your child's accomplishment. Encourage, DO NOT PUSH! When your child is ready he will go. If he is not ready now then don't force it. Many times for boys they are not ready to potty train until they are 3 years old. So allow him the time to be ready to do it. Just like walk, and crawling. You can do things that help them learn, but until they are ready pushing it only leads to frustration on both you and him. Then this leads to it being a longer process because he no long wants to try and has no interest in it as it is not a pleasant experience. Have the little potty out and allow him to decide when he wants to use it. If he wants to sit on it with clothes on.....let him. Focus on where he is at in his learning not where you want him to be. He may or may not be potty trained by Sept. You may have to change your plans. You need to take out the time limit on the potty training. You will have more success if you focus on going with his speed then the speed you want.

Aaliyah - posted on 07/16/2014




What I do with my child is this- My son loves the little teddy gram crackers (Honey are his favorite) Every time he would use the potty or toilet, I would reward him with 2 teddy gram crackers. It worked for me! You could do the same, but with a different snack if your child/children didn't like teddy grams! You should at least give this some thought, try it out and see if it works for your child/children! (: -Thanks.

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