Ashley - posted on 01/31/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )





I am a mother of 3... my LO is 1 month old, my middle is 19 months, and my oldest is 4 1/2 years old. I am currently BF on demand and it is kicking my A$$ my oldest 2 are grumpy and needy... and the baby is demanding lol. I want to continue to BF since I did it for my other 2 but I need help to set up an informal feeding schedule. Or is that even possible. I will never starve bub but I need to be able to give the kids my attention as well. I think part of the problem is that my 19month old still needs me soo much and is going through anxiety about me not being there for him. I hate not giving him the love and attention my oldest got. and even worse when I FINALLY get bub off the breast and my middle guy love my oldest is left out completely. My husband of course helps when he is home to keep kids occupied but that only happens when he is home for 10hrs of the day my kids are alone with neglectful mommy (ok not actually I see to their needs and try my bestest) but I want help keeping bub satisfied and kids as well...

Do any moms have any help?


Leanne - posted on 01/31/2012




I have 4 children, (6, 5 3 and my youngest is 11 months), I had to set up a schedule to survive too. Otherwise I found baby screaming wanting his feed as I was either dropping of the elder one or picking him up from school, etc. And I couldn't do anything about it while I was driving, so I just noted what time roughly the baby was feeding over a couple of days and fed him roughly every 3 - 4 hours from there around the things i needed to do. Eg he wanted a feed at 8:30 am - which is when I had to leave, so I gave him his feed at 8:15 to give me time to get the kids to school. After I came home, I fed him again at 10:30 then he slept for a couple of hours while I worked with the other kids and gave the others lunch, then I fed him at 1:30 - 2 ish again and then left at 2:30 to pick the kids up then again at about 4 - 4:30 so I had time to talk to the other kids when they came home and cook dinner for the family. and then again at 7:30 after I had put the others into bed. It worked well for me and both the baby and the kids won with my individual attention at alternating times of the day. You just have to re-shuffle the times that work for you when they start dropping feeds as they get older. My baby is now 11 months and is still BF. I feed him first thing when I wake up and straight after the other boys are in bed at night, then he goes to sleep!


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Stifler's - posted on 01/31/2012




I would keep feeding on demand. Feed when they wake up, make the others breakfast, load washing machine while they're eating, put tv on for the kids, eat your breakfast, have story time or play a game with the other 2 or just play blocks with them get them a kids clothes line to help hang out stuff like socks, get them helping with the dishes and stuff (good for talking and spending time together) and schedule in going to the park in the afternoon with the baby in a snugli or ergo (or whatever). If the 19 month old naps just feed baby on demand and do stuff with your oldest like make a scrapbook or painting. You can do it. I only have 2 I can't imagine how difficult it would be to juggle 3 with the youngest 2 close. You're probably doing a lot better than you think.

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