Seperated and being told it is my fault our daughter is the way she is

Carla - posted on 10/26/2012 ( no moms have responded yet )




I seperated from my husband of 10 years. We have a 9 year old daughter together. He is now mad at me because though, we are still married yet seperated, I have found someone else. Throughout the 10 years he has done nothing but look at porn and has join dating sites. He said he does it because I never give him sex when he wants it. I am never really in the mood anymore. Lost that loving feeling you might say. I get my daughter for a week and he does for a week. I took her back today to her dads. He started yelling and screaming at me for "cheating" on him (okay so I did, I moved out though when I did, he kept looking at porn and dating sites. Is that not the same?) He told me I was an unfit mom because my daughter stays with me and the new male in my life. My daughter is well loved by me and my new male and his kids. She is fed, sheltered, has food, and clothes. She is taken to the doctor when she needs to go and her education is tended to. I do not abuse her. Sure an ocasinal clip on the behind but that is it. Her dad blames me because she does not want anything to do with him. She cries when she has to go back to him. Now he tells her and me when her and I can and can't talk to each other over phone and when I can see her again. We have no agreement through court or anything yet. Now he is giving me a choice to make...move back in with him and he will leave me alone (I was never happy there and got tired of his stuff) or face the stress and fight for my daughter custody. I am so hurt and scarred right now. He has slapped in in the past he does act violent a lot when he gets mad. I am worried about my daughter. The sheriff dept had stated one time to me that I can keep her until court and refuse him to see her but he can always get her from school. I don't know what to do anymore. I am awaiting for an appointment with the attorney and he has told his doctor and everybody that I cheated on him and now he trying to drag me and my daughter to a counslor

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