Should 15yr olds (OR teens at school) have girlfriends/boyfriends?

Antonia Lynn - posted on 04/10/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )




My son Alastair is now 15 and has a girlfriend. I have not really stopped this as my eldest daughter Magdalen (Alastair's older sister) is now 24 and has two of her own kids with a partner whom she met at age 17. I know one of my friends wouldn't allow her children to get boyfriends/girlfriends until after they finished school and were at at college/university or had stable jobs. I haven't stopped my kids having 'partners' and I sometimes wonder if I should've. What's your experience with teenage relationships? Do you let your kids have them? What are the pros and cons?


Jodi - posted on 04/10/2015




I don't think you can stop it, but what you can do is put boundaries around it. My son is 17 and has a girlfriend. He has curfews. He has boundaries around sleepovers (no sleepovers). He has boundaries around how often he can be out and spend time with her because he has school commitments. You can't stop teens having relationships altogether. You can try, but it won't work. This is a natural progression. You think your friend's kids didn't have relationships before college? Of course they did....she just doesn't know about them. I'd MUCH prefer to be privy to my son's relationships than have them kept a secret.

But having a "partner" and punching out babies? That's a whole different story. Maybe because I AM having the conversations with my son, that hasn't happened. Babies at 17 is not ok. Why would you be ok with that? There is a difference between girlfriend/boyfriend and "partner". Healthy balances.....

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