Should a 13yo be on Facebook!?

Rebecca - posted on 11/27/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )




Recently, a 13-year-old 8th grade high schooler sent me a friend request. I'm a teacher who teaches 6th grade, and I've taught this student two years ago...she attends the high school two blocks away from my school.
The administrators and School Board has a rule that you can't friend any teachers/staff members outside of school if you're a student. It doesn't matter how old you are.
I've been thinking, I received messages from her. This kid is a GREAT kid, always cheering others up and getting good grades when she was in my class. Should I talk to my school counselor about her trying to friend me on Facebook, then the counselor can e-mail the counselors at her school?? I'm not trying to get her into any trouble, but I feel she needs to know that the our entire city school board as a strict rule that you can't be add teachers. It's allowed to be friends, but Facebook?
Second, she's thirteen. She's legally allowed to be on social media, but should I also ask if she's monitored? It is not my business but we actually have rules for students on social media sites at our city. advice?


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Ev - posted on 11/28/2014




I agree totally with Dove on all counts. And while you question a 13 year old being on Facebook or other social media, I do as well. But its up to her parents to monitor her and keep up with her. I would say if you can contact the family and speak to her parents and tell them what happened that she can not be a friend to you on social media then maybe they will talk to her. Also, just block her. If she does see you sometime at the store for instance and asks you about it, tell her its against policy for a student and teacher to communicate that way.

Jodi - posted on 11/27/2014




At 13, she is legally allowed to have a facebook account. But really, we all know students of this age often don't make good choices. Shouldn't the rule be that teachers are not allowed to accept students as friends as opposed to a rule that tells students they may not friend teachers on facebook? That rule seems a little backward to me. Whether she is monitored on Facebook or not is really not your business. It only becomes your business if she is doing something illegal on her social media, then you are obligated to report it to the authorities, but until then, really, your only action should be to block her.

With regard to the previous poster's advice, I'd actually advise against that. The child is no longer a student at your school. Depending on the laws where you live, calling the parent of a previous student and accessing their private information when they are no longer within your school community is potentially a violation of privacy laws.

Sarah - posted on 11/27/2014




I would talk with her parents instead of administrators and such. I would let her parents know what happened and explain to them your concerns.

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