Should I accept joint custody without child support?

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i went to rehab for a second time and spent six months away from my children working to get better and overcome alcoholism, etc. Teenage son doesn't want to spend much time with me. Def, will not stay night. Two girls are younger and love being with me as much as possible. Ex has agreed to go back to joint custody, as long as I do not request child support. Thoughts please? I feel so blessed after reading other posts.


Jodi - posted on 01/27/2013




I agree with Cindy, child support shouldn't be needed if you are sharing custody, because you are both then providing the same level of care.

However, having said that, if your ex earns considerably more than you, and you are unable to keep the children in the manner to which they are accustomed at dad's house, then I know the system here recognises that and WILL order the the higher income earning parent pay. For example, your ex may be able to afford to have them in private school, but when they are at your house you may not be able to afford the things they need (maybe their uniform needs dry cleaning, or a tutor needs to be paid, etc). Or they may be used to having a bedroom each at dad's house, and may require that in your home too, but you can't afford to have a house that big.

So I can see that what he has offered is fair, however, just make sure you give consideration to anything that may be an expectation in your home that you simply can't afford, and make sure you make arrangements for that particular expense or something.

I don't know if I made sense there, I just wanted to make sure you gave it some thought before you make the agreement, rather than realise it afterwards.


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Thank you for posting. I received child support before going to rehab because the state required it. I also received alimony for two years.

Cindy - posted on 01/27/2013




Then there really shouldn't be child support. You support the children financially when they are with you and your ex supports the child financially when they are with him.

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Me and my fiance half time and my ex and his fiance other half. I am getting married in March:) He is in recovery also so lots of support emotionally and financially from him right now.

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