Should i call my estranged and abusive child?

Mona - posted on 04/15/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )




Hi Everyone! This is my first post on this website and i am surprised to see, how many moms are going through so much of pain.

My Story is totally different. My Ex abducted my son when my son was 5 years old and took him to another country. I won legal battle on country of my residence, but that was not acknowledged by another country.

My ex did everything to keep my child away from me. I tried so much, to talk to my son , sent him gifts etc. But slowly n slowly, he is becoming abusive towards me and do not respect me at all... I tried to communicate so many times, so many ways, tried to meet him. I am going through this torture for like 5 years now.

This new year when i called him, my son accidentally picked the phone and asked me to call him after 2 days. I did that same, as he suggested. He became so abusive on phone and told me clearly that he hates me and never ever wants to see my face and do not want to hear my voice. He literally called me a bitch. I was heartbroken. *TEARS*

He told me that whenever he hears my voice, he gets upset and want me to get out of his life totally. he told me that i ruin his day. At last, he said i dare not call him ever again.

He will be turning 12 tomorrow.

Please advise how should i go about it, should i call again? as a mother, i have this gut feel, that he has become like his father and turn my sadness into depression. He will surely get abusive as he always do.

I am thinking to do some charity on his bday to overcome my pain, please advise.

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