Should i continue to let my babys father see my baby?

JESSICA - posted on 01/27/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )




helloo so i need advice... I have a almost 8 month old. I left the father because he punched me, so i took off with the kids along with my 7 year old(different father) ive let the baby father see him once in awhile at a park with me right there... i do not trust him to hand him over though.. I wont what so ever... He texts me andcalls me mean names out of the blue i think sometimes just for conversation,then he asks to meet me so he can see the baby... idk what to do most people i ask say dont let him see him, he doesnt give me any money for him, calls me mean names , isnt on the birth certificate , the baby has my last name. Do i just cut him off and not let him see him or should i still take the mental abuse and let him see him?


Jodi - posted on 01/27/2013




Find a third party to take the baby to see him. Your baby has a right to develop a relationship with both parents, and his father isn't abusing him, only you, so you shouldn't cut him off altogether. However, it sounds like you need to remove yourself from the situation.

Just remember, that if you cut him off altogether, he can quite simply apply to the courts for a DNA test to prove paternity and seek visitation, and if he gets visitation, it is quite possible he will get it.

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Michelle - posted on 01/27/2013




I agree with Jodi completely.

He hasn't abused your son so you have no right to keep him away from his father. Support and visitation are also completely different issues so just because he hasn't paid you anything doesn't mean you can keep him away.

If you want to make sure that there are set times for visitation then go to mediation and get it in writing. If mediation doesn't work then you will have to take him to court. Also get in contact with the child support agency in your area and see if they will garnish his wages.

JESSICA - posted on 01/27/2013




Thats not a bad idea i could ask my mom if she will be the middle person. Thank you for your input

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