Should I keep trying to get my husband back?

Jasmin - posted on 12/16/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




I need some advice, I have married for 11 years. I got married at 18 and my daughter a few months later. I am a compulsive woman that when I get really angry I yell at my husband. Most of the arguments have been because he doesn't hold a job for long. He has changed his major 3 times and has been going to college for almost 8 years now. I am a teacher, when I was going to school I held a par-time job and took care of my two daughters and the house. He is now going to school full time and almost graduated from nursing school. We got in fight again and says he is not getting back together. Four years ago he cheated on me and I begged him back. I love him and don't want to get a divorce but he says his tired of my angry attitude. Anyway, any advice?


Amy - posted on 12/16/2012




If you really want him back then if I were you I would look into counseling for yourself so you can try and work through your feelings and maybe learn how to interact with him differently. With that being said though it sounds like you have a problem with how motivated he is and after 11 years if he hasn't shown any real initiative he probably never will so you need to decide if you are ok with that.


View replies by

Gwen - posted on 12/17/2012




Get started in counseling to work through your own anger/control issues and show him that you are committed to the relationship. He is unmotivated, and your constant yelling isn't any better. You can't change him, but you can change yourself. If nothing else, I'm sure this isn't the kind of example you want to set for your girls. Your husband may decide to stay, or he may will be better equipped to build healthier relationships in the future.

Ashley - posted on 12/16/2012




let him go. the fighting and yelling is not good for your kids. and it sounds like you are able to support them and you without them, and he does not want to get back together, so file for divorce. he already said he didnt want to come back, so if he does end up coming back, its probly going to be because of the kids, or he needs you to support him. and if that is the case, it will never work.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms