Should I let me boyfriend have such a close relationship with my 8 month old daughter??? (He's not her father)

Alex - posted on 08/05/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




So here's the story....

I am 19 years old, my "baby daddy" and I were on and off throughout my pregnancy, and as soon as my daughter was born our relationship was over for good. When my daughter, Addy was about 5 months old I ended up going out on a date with one of my old best friends and we hit it off and have been dating ever since.

The other day she was crying and Jordan (my boyfriend) walked over to her and she reached out to him for him to pick her up. This was the first time that she did this and it kind of freaked me out.

I think I am in love with Jordan, but I also can't predict the future. What if we break up?? Will this hurt my daughter? I'm so torn and having a hard time determining if I need to be drawing a line between them? We don't live together but we see each other everyday, and Addy sees him everyday.


Sammy - posted on 08/06/2012




I don't think you need to draw a line between them. If things do not work out between the two of you and you find someone else then your daughter will adjust to the change. It may take a few weeks for full adjustment but she will adjust. I was the same way with my youngest daughter. I was dating and got engaged to someone when my daughter was very young. Unfortunetly the guy was not the right one for me and my daughter was very attached to him but in a matter of two weeks my daughter was just fine. She did not miss him or anything else. When I got with the guy who is now my husband she was quick to connect with him and his youngest daughter. I know it isn't easy but please try not to worry to much. Things have a way of working out even if your not sure they will and kids are very resilient with most things.


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Musha - posted on 08/06/2012




The only person who can tell you if the Jordan is the rite person for you and your doughter is God , it sounds funny but its the whole truth , Read Hebrews 4:12, be true tu your self , pray to God for the rite direction in your suitition He nevr fails to come throu , Trust in him, God is the best Advise yo will eva get on this earth , Best of Luck , what is meant tu be wil be throu the Grace of the Lord ,


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