Should I let my child quit?

Jemma - posted on 12/16/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )




He once took an interest in violin lessons and started to do them.
He did them for a year and then said he wanted to quit . I didn't want him to because the violin costed money.
So he did another year and another and no he's on his fourth year.
He refuses to co-operate with the teachers anymore because he said he hates them and the violin.
Should I make him go on or just stop.


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Ashley - posted on 12/17/2012




if he does not want to do it, then yes, you should let him quit. you should explain to him that quitting is not always an option. but, he really does not like it anymore and he has told you before, and you still made him do, so now he is acting out. it will just get worse if you keep making him.

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I'm guessing you didn't rent the violin. I made the very same decision with my son and his flute playing. He refused to practice, etc. I'd say if he stuck it out for 4 years, that's a reasonable amount of time to decide if he hates it or not. Just don't sell the violin, he may go back to it one day.

Dove - posted on 12/16/2012




You should've let him quit after the first year and resold the violin, so.... yes. If I pay for an activity... my kids have to finish out the session that is paid for, but after that... if they want to do something ELSE... they are totally free to do whatever else we have the time and money for.

Michelle - posted on 12/16/2012




I agree with Amy my rule at my house if you start something you have to finish it for that year because you have made a commitment but if he actually hates it I would let him quit I know it cost money but now you are just throwing away money on lessons that he is not learning in. Instruments and music require lots of practice and a love for music you don't want to ruin his love for music because he chose wrong on the instrument.

Amy - posted on 12/16/2012




If he no longer enjoys it I would allow him to quit, he's put in 4 years plenty of time to decide he doesn't want to do it.

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