Should I let my son's father speak to him on the phone?

Linda - posted on 06/23/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )




Im wondering if I should let my son's father speak to him on the phone. Legally, he has visitation once a month, supervised, but has not done it yet (it's been almost a year). I will say that we live about 4 hours away from his father and I am pretty sure he does not work (he lives with his mom and has not worked more than a couple weeks at a time since I have known him). His father has not paid any support. He might be clean now but is an addict and was doing drugs/alcohol when I left and filed for divorce. The papers do not say anything about phone calls and am wondering if I should let him. Thanks for any advice.


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Dove - posted on 06/23/2015




Of course you should. That is his father you are talking about. Your son deserves a chance at any relationship w/ the man. I do think he should be making more of an effort to see his son, but it's probably hard for him to justify driving 8 hours just to see his kid under someone's watchful eye. SHOULD he be trying? Of course, but even if he doesn't... that is no reason to keep them from having a phone conversation.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/23/2015




Why in the world would you deny them? If that's the only way the man can keep in contact with his son at this point, wouldn't you want to facilitate that, rather than try to alienate him? (Which could be potentially problematic for you later...)

Jodi - posted on 06/23/2015




I think you need to ask what your reasons are to prevent it. This seems like it may be his dad's way of maintaining contact - maybe he can't afford to visit, given the 4 hour distance. Maybe the phone call IS his best effort. Why not let him maintain a relationship with his son by phone? At least it is something, and it is allowing your son the right to a relationship of some sort with his dad.

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