should i put the fathers name on the birth certificate

Carrie - posted on 01/10/2015 ( 11 moms have responded )

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i have a son that is a month and a half old i took him over to his dads place so he could see him and that was when he was a week old since then his father has not bothered to contact me at all,
my son is half native american and to get the status card for my son i need his dads name on the birth certificate but if i put his name on the birth certificate do i need to put his name on the birth registration ?

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/13/2015

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Put it on there. Be honest with yourself, the state, and your kid.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/13/2015

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Stephanie, that determination is for a court to make, not the estranged or parent who has physical custody at the time. That's all I'm saying. If allegations are proven, that's different.

This OP didn't put his name on, for whatever reason, but wants to collect benefits for her child based on his ethnicity. She needs proof of paternity and to put the father's name on the certificate.

Stephanie - posted on 01/13/2015

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@Shawn - He wasn't around for the pregnancy, or birth. So I didn't put him on the birth certificate and gave him my last name. He came around when Landon was 3 months old and stayed around until Landon was 19 months old. That's when he confessed to sexually molesting him. So what started out as an attempt to make future adoption eaiser turned out to be an excellent decision. That is why I asked her reason. Maybe he doesn't deserve rights.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/13/2015

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@ Stephanie: You may have had your 'reasons', but that still doesn't mean that the child's father doesn't have rights. He does.

Stephanie - posted on 01/13/2015

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I guess to be able to better answer why wasn't he on the birth certificate to begin with? I had my reasons and didn't put my sons fathers name on the birth certificate. Best decision I have made.

Jodi - posted on 01/10/2015

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There is no advantage to you in NOT putting his father's name on the birth certificate other than to drag out any court proceedings that may involve proving biological parentage (such as DNA testing). You don't use a name on a birth certificate as reward or punishment for how a biological parent responds to their status as a parent. He IS the father. You can't change that by not adding him to a piece of paper.

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