Should I say anything to my sons preschool teacher?

Lindsay - posted on 02/17/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )




Today my 4 year old son told me that a little boy he goes to preschool with told him something "scary" yesterday. He said that his friend told him that "his mommy punches him in the face". My son says to me "that's not nice, only superheros can punch people". I asked my son if his friend said anything to their teacher or if the teacher heard him say it & my son said that he only told him. I know that children say things all the time that aren't true or are exaggerated, but this concerns me. I realize this could be totally false information. Is it my place to talk to their teacher & tell her what was said or should I mind my own business?? Thanks!!


Jodi - posted on 02/17/2012




I think it is definitely worth telling the teacher, because even though children say things sometimes that aren't the truth, at the very least, she will then be on the lookout for any signs of abuse in the future, or even to have a talk to the little boy about it.

Nikki - posted on 02/17/2012




I would definitely tell the teacher, if the child is being abused something needs to be done. I think we have a responsibility as adults to advocate for children even if we do not have the full story.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/19/2012




I know you have already made up your mind to tell her, but I am just one more voice to say YES! I would tell her. The teacher may already suspect abuse if the story is true, and this would be more reason for her to take action if the preschool already suspects fowl play.

Sarah - posted on 02/19/2012




Tell the teacher. You and she have a legal obligation to report even suspected abuse. It's not like he'll get taken away without investigation. If it's false information, they'll close the file and they'll move on with their lives. If it's true, then you will have protected the life of a little boy.

Alyson - posted on 02/17/2012




As a preschool teacher, I encourage you to speak to your son's teacher. Sometimes our hands are tied in what we can do, but sometimes extra love and attention can make a world of difference!


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Kay - posted on 02/17/2012




Any time that you hear a story like that, I would advocate talking to a someone who can keep an eye on the child, like the teacher in this case. If it was true, the only voice that child has is yours.

Lindsay - posted on 02/17/2012




Thanks ladies. I was leaning towards telling the teacher, you have all helped me make up my mind. God forbid this little boy is in an unsafe household, I would never be able to live with myself if something happened to him & I never said anything. Thanks again.

Sylvia - posted on 02/17/2012




Yes, I would say something to the teacher. It's probably not 100% true -- it's hard to believe that someone wouldn't already have noticed if a 4-year-old were coming to school with the kind of bruises that a punch in the face from an adult would leave -- but that doesn't mean there's not some level of truth in it. At the very least, as Jodi says, the teacher can keep an eye on this little boy ... just in case.

It's quite possible he's making it all up because his mom made him wear a shirt he doesn't like, or something equally trivial. But on the other hand, it's also quite possible he's being abused, and it doesn't hurt to have the teacher keeping an eye out.

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