Should I stay or go?

Erica - posted on 06/24/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )




I'm not sure what to do. My husband has been lying to me and talking to other women behind my back and hiding it. In the past, twice now that I know of, he has had a plan to leave. I am not sure that staying is the best option. Our dauhter is 2 and I don't want her to grow up and know that mom and dad don't get along. We don't talk anymore and I am tired of being lied to. I just don't know what to do. Any advice?


View replies by

Christina - posted on 06/24/2011




I wish I had really great advise but all I can say with certainty about what you've posted is that your daughter doesn't HAVE to grow up with parents who don't get along unless you let that happen. You don't even have to plan to like him but for her sake you can make a point of one day getting along FOR her. As far as the lying goes, I think you probably know the answer and no amount of other people telling you to leave or stay will change what you know. I'm so sorry you're going through this, divorce is painful no matter what your circumstances - do the best you can to take care of yourself so that you can take care of your daughter, she will need you. Best wishes Erica

Brie - posted on 06/24/2011




In all honesty... GET THE HELL OUT OF THERE!!! he has made it clear on several accounts he doesn't respect you or seem to care about you.. you need to get yourself out of a bad situation and get your daughter out of the situation before she grows up to think that it is ok for a man to treat her this way... girls have a tendency to 'marry their fathers' i know i did lol.. (meaning the man they marry is just like there dad or similar) is that something you want for your daughter? you don't deserve to be treated this way either... get out now!!! and best of luck to you!

Rebecca - posted on 06/24/2011




It depends what is best for you. You don't seem very happy, and your daughter can sense that around the house. Also, if you aren't doing family stuff together, or associating as a family(since you aren't talking) that's going to really mold your daughters perception or what a good relationship is. If you already think he has a plan it may be best to have one too, that way if something does happen you will at least be prepared. I do wish you all the best.

Tamara - posted on 06/24/2011




I am sure deep inside you know what you should do. I can understand trying but if its getting worse you are best to have yourself and your little one happy, two separated parents who are happy is better then having two together parents unhappy. I do also think that having him treat you like this your daughter will learn that its ok and what she expects from a man when she gets older.

Good Luck sending you positive thoughts.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms