Should I talk to my 8 year old daughter about sex?

Sara - posted on 06/28/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




I have a daughter who is 8 years old. Her friend was over today and when I was talking with her when my daughter was changing her clothes. She said something about sex. She said that she watched a movie and her mom had her close her eyes during the S.E.X. scene. I was shocked that she was so candid about the subject. So my concern is if she know this, what is she sharing with my daughter...I obviously want to be the one to talk with my daughter about sex. I don't want her to learn about it from her friends. So, I'm wondering if I should bring the subject up or wait until she asks me. (She is usually good about asking about things she doesn't know about - even bad words). Any advice would help. Thanks!


Jenn - posted on 06/29/2012




My daughter is eight and she mentioned the word sex the other day. Rather than react with the shock I felt, I asked what that was. She said she didn't know, she heard the word in a song. So to her, it is just a weird grown up word but she has NO clue what sex actually is. I will always be honest and age appropriate with the sex subject, but sometimes there are just words with no meaning to the child that they hear from adults or TV. I have started to really make sure that she understands no one other than her parents or doctor can see her naked or touch her privates when she has a problem. Modesty has really kicked in at this point, thankfully! It is good that your daughter can ask you questions...keeping that trust and line of communication open is vital! I was able to that with my mom and her honesty helped me hold off on sex till I was nearly 18.

Michelle - posted on 06/29/2012




Maybe just ask her in conversation if she has any questions about it. She doesn't need to know the whole story.

My boys are 11 & 8 and they have been asking all sorts of questions. I answer them honestly but don't go into all the little details. They know the difference between boys and girls though and their sister is only 2 so I had a lot of questions when I was pregnant :-)

The main thing is to be honest, there's no point in making up stories to make it sound better. It may even help to google pictures of the male and female bodies to explain the differences and what happens to our bodies during puberty.


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Carrie - posted on 11/08/2013




Well, I had the talk with my kids when they were all 11, one of my daughters, Bridgitte, just got the talk because she's 11

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