Should my ex be allowed to text the kids 24/7 when I have them?

Brandi - posted on 07/17/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )




We are currently in the middle of a custody battle, literally. He has had problems with abuse and alcohol so the last time we went to court for custody, they allowed him 6 months to go to classes. They also gave him a graduated visitation schedule. My two daughters (10 & 8) will be staying the night with him for the first time in 2 years, next weekend. I have always answered his calls, unless we were really busy. I have not stopped him from contacting by phone at all. Both of my girls have IPods that my parents bought them for Christmas. They can only get messages and things when they have WiFi. I do not allow them to bring them with them to the visits with their dad for many reasons (they will just sit on them and not do anything with him or they will not be returned like everything else that has been sent over there). i told the girls not to give their dad that email address to contact them on the IPods because he can call my phone to talk to them. Last time they saw him and his new wife (who by the way pressed charges on him a couple months ago for beating her up and she pulled a gun on him in front of my girls, that's why I filed for sole custody) they made the girls give them the email address so they could text them. Now, he and the new wife text my girls all day and night wanting to know what they are doing. He knows that the girls bed time is 8:30-9 and he will face time them after 9 knowing that I am already in bed. Should I change their email address of just block him?? And I don't want the judge to get mad that I have done this but he can call my phone and talk to them. BTW..He never answers his phone if I call when he has them.


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Gena - posted on 07/19/2014




I would do it like Jodi said, let them put their Ipods in a box at a certain time befor bed.They shouldnt take it with to bed, cause the bed is a place to sleep..and not text.

Jodi - posted on 07/18/2014




Or you could just stop allowing them to have their iPods after bed time. I don't think you should block them from having contact with their dad in this way, but you can set ground rules on how their iPods are used. That way it isn't about him.

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