Should my mom let me go to my boyfriends house?

Keri - posted on 03/07/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )




Lately I've been disagreeing with my mom. She doesn't want to let me go to my boyfriend's house, but I think she should let me. I'm 16 and he's 15 and I just want to get some other opinions from moms to show her what other people think. I understand why she's nervous to let me go to his house, but I'm responsible. My mom has met his father before and he's a good parent. He would be there the entire time as would his girlfriend. I just need to see where other moms stand on this matter. I get why my mom would be nervous to let me go over there, but we would be supervised the entire time and I'm not about to drink, or do drugs, or have sex. His dad is protective as well and isn't about to let us behind closed doors or be inappropriate (which once again, I'm really not looking to do). I'd just appreciate some feedback on what you moms would do. EDIT* I have been with him for a month and do respect my mother and her answer. I'm not looking to fight with her, only to understand why this would be an issue. Also, I know it's very surprising because I'm a 16 year old hormonal teenager and such, but I'm really not looking for alone time with this boy. I'm not into doing anything with him that I can't do in public. As unbelievable as that sounds, I'm being completely honest. Another thing is that he would be allowed to my house, however, I don;t feel comfortable having people over. Every time I hang out with my friends I go to their houses because as I've explained to my mom, I just don't feel right in my house. It's just a personal quirk, but if I can't go to his house, I'll invite my boyfriend to mine.


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Ev - posted on 03/08/2014




What I do not understand is why you do not feel right about being at your home with friends over. It does not make sense unless your mom is an awful housekeeper and you do not want to be embarrassed by the messes. Seems to me that mom has the right of it. Maybe he should come over a few times first to get your mom's okay. SHe is only trying to do the best for you.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/07/2014




First of all, this is a moms site. Meaning it is for mothers to talk and get advice.

Every situation is different. I would personally have my kids over my house with their significant others until I talked with the parents and set up boundaries. you may not like it, but you need to respect your mother. You need to gain her trust. The more you argue and fight with her, the more she will see you are not mature enough to handle the situation.

And you are 16 years you really are looking to have alone time with your boyfriend. I know that. You know that. Your boyfriend knows that. And so does your mother.

Just curious, how long have you been with this boy for?

Jodi - posted on 03/07/2014




Why can't your boyfriend come over to your house? Is that a possibility?

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