should we have another baby?

Jeni - posted on 05/31/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )




i have three teens 13-15 and am 35 yrs old. we had a surprise IUD pregnancy while back that was lost at 4 months. before the pregnancy we never wanted to have any more kids again. we was ready for ours to be grown soon ect... but during that 4 months we warmed up to the idea and was looking forward to another "late" that we could hang with as the older ones were moving on to their own lives.
now we are looking to try again for a not surprise baby... lol this will be the first "planned" one...dr has said medically there is no seen reason not to. just wondering your opinions on the pros and cons of a late in life baby.


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Shannintipton - posted on 05/31/2011




I think Krista has a great idea. I would make a toddler though. That will keep you on your toes. You can't just sit a toddler in the crib when you get tired. Oh and you will get tired. Just think back . . . awe is it coming back to you now. I would think long and hard at this one. Good luck.

Anne - posted on 05/31/2011




I am one of 4 kids, with a 15 year spread between the oldest and the youngest. While my 2 older siblings had "young" parents, my younger sibling and I have "old" parents. They went camping with my older ones, rented condos with us younger ones. My older siblings and me (and my younger brother) didn't really grow up together. We didn't really start to get to know each other until we were older. To put it onto perspective, my younger brother started 1st grade the year after my older brothers graduated high school! Those are some things to think about. As to my opinion: I wouldn't change my family for the world! If you have the love, patience and money to raise another kid, then go for it!

Christy - posted on 05/31/2011




That's a hard call. Make sure you are doing it for the right reasons. Can you see yourself at 55ish with a teenager? Were you ever looking forward to the empty nest?

We didn't start having kids until I was 33 and 34. So really don't know have good advice for you.

Krista - posted on 05/31/2011




I'm a "late-in-life" mom myself (had my first child at age 35), so as far as cons, I really can't think of any, other than the fact that I'll be getting on to 60 by the time my kids leave the house!

For you, it might be even different -- right now, you guys are poised to be empty nesters by the time you're 40. In your shoes, I would see that as an opportunity to enjoy time with my spouse, travel, and do all of the things I put off due to having kids.

I know some people say that older mothers don't have as much energy, that your body doesn't snap back as easily, etc. But I think this depends very much upon the individual. Do you have a friend who has a baby, who you could maybe watch for the day? We tend to look at the past with rose-coloured glasses. I know I look back at my son's infancy and think, "that was EASY". But it wasn't easy at the time. So perhaps caring for an infant for a day will serve as a bit of a reality check, so that you are going into this with your eyes wide open.

But hey, if you've thought about it, and this is really what you want to do, then go for it, and enjoy it!

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