Should you leave older children asleep when you go out?

Carol - posted on 08/12/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )




My best friend lets her children, 10 & 12, stay up late (2-4 AM) watching TV or playing games. She & her live-in boyfriend, or other friends, get up & go to brunch or breakfast, leaving the children asleep while they eat & visit. Are these children old enough to be home alone, asleep? The family lives in an old home with no neighbors close by to keep an eye on the house & kids in their absence. Is this a wise thing to do? I won't go to brunch with them, because I don't want to encourage this. I've offered to stay with the children while they go out, but she says they know what to do in an emergency. I love her children and don't want them to suffer from their parents (boyfriend is their dad) irresponsibility.


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I'd be ok w/ leaving a 10 and 12 year old home alone if they knew they were going to be alone... or had a note, but I would not be ok w/ letting them stay up that late and then going to brunch (or something like that) w/out them.

Tyrae - posted on 08/12/2011




I took my babysitting course at the age of 12 and was able to watch children younger then me after that. I think as long as the 12 year old is relatively responsible I don't see the problem. Although I would wake up the older one and tell them where we were going though, and when we would back and which phone number to call if there was an emergency.

Krista - posted on 08/12/2011




I agree with Kate. That is WAY too late for kids that age to stay up. And yeah, if something goes wrong, who's to say that they won't panic (or even wake up at all?) They're not being responsible in the least, in my opinion.

Kate CP - posted on 08/12/2011




I, I don't think that's cool. If they were awake and aware of what was going on I might be okay with it. But first of all, kids that age shouldn't be up that late. Secondly, if they're asleep and a fire starts and there aren't any adults there they may very well panic. Nope, not a good idea.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/12/2011




I think that sucks for the kids to wake up and find no one there. I am sure they are used to it, but it must set in a sense of panic "where is everyone". I don't think it is right, but they are not my kids. I think legally the 12 year old can be home alone, not so sure about the 10 year old. I really would not have an issue leaving this age home alone. But I would never just up and go while they were asleep. Kinda mean.

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