Showing the court your the best interest of your child.

Bobbie - posted on 05/09/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )




I know this may be quite similar to other Moms situations so the help and advice is much needed. I currently have temporary custody and I will be going back to court to try and get full custody this summer. What are some ways I can show that I am the best interest for our child? You have to understand that I only seen my daughter on the weekends because since she was born I have been away at school trying to better myself to help support us in the long run, but I was still involved in her life. I'm a young mother, and currently I have been working on getting her requirements done to start a 3 year old program. I really don't have any idea how to show I am the best interest of our child. Any starting points?


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Ev - posted on 06/03/2013




So from the last post you made; I take it that your parents have been her main caregivers for most of her life. I can understand that you want to make your life better for yourself and her but at the same time you could have chosen and alternate type of schooling to get there. THere are so many choices.

As for proving you are a better choice for her as a parent, its going to be he said/she said in the court room. You will have to show its you that has been her main caregiver though it looks like its been her grandparents mostly. You are going to have to show you can afford to live on your own with her and provide for her shelter, food, clothing and other necessaries. You are going to have to show a stable home life too. Her father is going to have to prove the same things. I do not know that you can just walk in to a court anywhere and say that you are the best choice for your kid because that is in your own eyes not that of the court. Its all going to be in how you present yourself and so on for the judge to decide to make you the primary parent. Now a days, the father can be that just as much as the mother can and its more common than you would think.

Bobbie - posted on 06/03/2013




I am going against her father. I was the primary care giver for the first 7 months of her life while attending school. After that 7 months I left to attend another school which was 75 miles away. During that time we weighed our options, I chose that she should have moved in with him so we could all be together but he did not want that because that would interfere with other priorities he had with his mother and job. So she eded up staying with my parents while I was away. Also during that time he never seen her and was to busy to see here where I went home every weekend to be with her and take care of her. There was a time he went almost 2 months without seeing her. Until we first went to court to get an order he never really seen her at all. The temporary joint custody we have now is the only reason he has been around her. Also I'm not sure what he wants now but I can only assume he wants to have full custody of her.

Angela - posted on 05/10/2013




Are you up against the child's other parent? Or grandparents?

Please tell us more.

Jodi - posted on 05/09/2013




Well, obviously your ex is fighting that he is the best person for the child to be with, so I guess it depends what his argument is. If he is arguing that you have only seen the child on weekends and he has been the primary carer since she was born, then he has a good argument for joint custody. What is he asking for? And on what basis? Maybe full custody for you isn't actually in her best interests?

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