Sibling Tension

Hannahemerry - posted on 01/03/2016 ( no moms have responded yet )




Alright.... To be honest I'm not quite sure why I am posting this. I think its because I need someone else to help me put things into perspective. About two years ago I met my mom's best friends son. We instantly clicked and soon became friends. Great, right? Well, it was. It was absolutely incredible because for the first time I felt like I had a genuine friend who shared my interests. We can talk about history, music, or art for hours. The weird thing rests in the fact that he is four years younger than me. At the the time I was 18 and he was 14. As time passed we became closer friends and suddenly I realized I had feelings for him. I was ashamed and afraid of what this meant so I pulled away in an attempt to avoid getting hurt and hurting him. Over the summer we talked very rarely, but I missed his presence in my life terribly. In the fall I texted him and apologized, telling him that it was never his fault and that I pulled away for personal reasons. I told him I hoped that he could fine some forgiveness for me in his heart. Never in a million years would I have imagined that he would have forgiven me. We spent a lot of time together and right before I went to Africa at the begging of December I told him I had feelings for him. He told me he shared those feelings. Of course I would have never pursued a relationship without both mine and his parents approval so we asked both of our parents together if they were okay with us dating. They all said we had their permission. I'm currently 20 and he is 16. I know that the four year ago difference sounds significant but age just doesn't seem to be a factor. I love his company. I love how he has always been there for me. I love how the way he acts reflects all the values and beliefs that I hold dear. So, now for the dilemma. I have two younger sisters. The one is almost 18 and the other is going to be 14. Both of them are extraordinarily bothered by my relationship. To be honest I don't really understand why considering that it doesn't really affect them and they even both admit to really liking my boyfriend. Anyway, there has been a growing tension between me and my sisters since my boyfriend and I became official. I care deeply for this guy but I also love my sisters. Do you guys have any advice for what I can do to smooth things over. I understand that a lot of you aren't going to agree with the age difference but that truly doesn't seem to be a problem for me and my bf. We were friends first and that relationship was beautiful and fulfilling. He's extraordinarily mature and is starting college in the fall. What I am asking is how I can improve my relationship with my siblings?

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