Single mom of 4 year old boy

Petrice - posted on 04/23/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )




I find myself crying sometimes mainly when my son is spending the weekend with his father. I feel so sorry for him when he asks why his mommy and daddy don't live together. I can't help but beat myself up sometimes. Like why did I think it was ok to have a child with someone who I knew would not make a good partner. How dumb could I have been? It's still unbelievable to me that I ended up a single mom. I love my son and don't know what I would do without him but still how did I end up a single mom?


Michelle - posted on 04/23/2016




I was a single Mum of 2 when I left my ex husband. My kids would ask why we weren't together and I would just answer that sometimes Mummies and Daddies still like each other but can't live together. They do understand and there's no point beating yourself up over it.
You need to be the best Mother for your child, not regret having him. Maybe some counseling would help you build up your self esteem and be proud of what you are achieving.


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Ev - posted on 04/24/2016




I agree with these ladies. I came out of a marriage of 12 plus years with 2 kids 12 and 5 (both adults now). I was the mom who chose not to fight for them in court because it was not fair to either of them to be pulled back and forth. They lived with their dad until the younger one finished high school. It was really hard after just celebrating the 12th anniversary to hear he was done and wanted out. On Valentines' Day he told me he did not love me anymore and the day after he told me he did not want me anymore. We were laying in bed early one morning when he said it. Back to back literally. He claims not to know he said anything. I know he did...I heard it loud and clear. What I did not get was his hateful manner and why he wanted out. To this day I do not know but that makes no matter now. He moved on and married 14 months later because we suspect he needed someone to care for the kids more than anything. It did not work out and six months after that divorce he married again just before we had been divorced 3 years. This one has stuck around and had kids with him.

Jodi - posted on 04/24/2016




Ditto what Michelle said. My ex an I split when my son was 2, and that was also my answer.

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