single mom with Bipolar ll Disorder with ADHD child

Vanessa - posted on 12/02/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )




My son is 9 with ADHD. I am Bipolar with maybe a bit of ocd in manic stage. I am struggling to deal with this newer issue of lying amongst other things etc. School and home life has become a daily battle. Creating Structure seems impossible. Does anyone have any ideas, thoughts or information tools to help me. We ate both also very creative and part of our issue is having a very haphazard home with too many projects and much too much stuff piled into our small home. Unfortunately I am not very good at organizing my space and when I do get somewhere my ocd kicks in and I will end up taking 2 hours to organize or clean something that would probably take only ½ that time for someone else. (Seriously labels out, closet color coded... Stupid ridiculous! But I always fall back into overdoing it every time) my son is lying about homework and was so behind but I had no idea it was going on (no communication from teachers) the crazy thing is he's smart and knows how to do the work but doesn't want to. There's no pride or desire. To top it off he was given a character award for helping other kids with"their" homework and he made the honor roll! (Even being behind with homework!) How do I get a grip on my issues which conflict with his abilities to control his?? I want to make things better but I don't know how. (The probably over detail in this message is another issue...I can't keep things simple, short). Exhausted and drained


Raye - posted on 12/02/2015




I'm not the most organized person, and my husband and his two kids are downright slobs. So I'm not sure I can be of much help in that area. I understand how hard it is to keep organized, though, and having many half-started projects. It can be hard even for the best of us, so don't get too down on yourself or your son. Do your best.

Regarding your son not doing homework, you might want to check with the school to see if they have an online system where you can see if the child is missing assignments (my step-kids' school does). Then tell him he has to ask the teacher to get the work he's missing and get it done. Otherwise, you might want to set up a weekly call to the teachers yourself to see what's missing and if he can make up the work. His education is very important, and he should get into good habits now so he doesn't continue to struggle later on.

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