Sleep training

Holly - posted on 02/19/2016 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Which book/ method did everyone use and what age did you start? I know this is not an original question, but my 4 month old is up more than 4 times a night....im desperate!

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/19/2016

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He's 4 months old. At this age, he's still needing night feeds.

I would suggest to not co sleep with this one. I didn't co sleep with either of mine, both were sleeping through the night around 8 months. Sleeping through, mind you, is any stretch of time that is 4 or more consecutive hours

Raye - posted on 02/19/2016

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So you're having your older kid sleep in bed with you and your husband sleeps in a different room... This does not sound like a good idea. My sister and her husband were this way. Sister let both boys co-sleep with her and hubby slept on the couch. Sister does not have a strong marriage, and I feel that they're heading for divorce.

Your kids need to have a certain amount of independence from you (and you need to keep the connection with your husband). They need to be able to self-soothe themselves back to sleep if they wake at night (except storms or nightmares). The little one will need you for feeding, but as Sarah said -putting him in his crib drowsy but not yet asleep will train him to be able to fall back asleep on his own.

Most babies are ready to sleep 8 hours at a time after six months. This may be delayed a little for breastfeeding babies because they metabolize breast milk relatively quickly and require more frequent feedings. Also make sure your kids are getting enough sleep (about 14 hours total per day for a 4 month old, 11-12 hours per day for a 4 year old). If your children are up late, they may become overtired, which can cause them to take longer to fall asleep, to wake up more often during the night, and to wake up in the early morning. Routines matter, too. You don't need a strict one with a baby at 4 months because he isn't ready to sleep through the night anyway, but once your baby is older, establish a bedtime routine and keep it every night. Children need consistency to help them feel safe and secure.

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Holly - posted on 02/19/2016

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Thanks. His current schedule that he created for himself is bedtime at 6:30pm, up at 7:30pm for another feed, than at 11:30, 1, 3...at this point he often doesnt go down until 4... he's then up at 5 then 6:30 for the day. He takes his first nap at 8 am for 1.5 to 2 hrs. My first son was like this as well...just fussier. Gabriel- my 4 month old is 16lbs. Just a hungry guy i guess. I am absolutely ok with waking up 2-3 times a night..Im not a fan of the cry it out method...im ok with 2-3 minutes of tears. I guess ill just keep chugging along...doing the bedtime while he's dozy but not asleep.

Holly - posted on 02/19/2016

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Hi Sarah,
Yes im breastfeeding. Im trying to be proactive on sleep training with my second son - my first guy whos 4 just started sleeping through the night...with me. Husband sleeps in my sons room.

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