Sleep training a toddler after cosleeping!! Help!

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So I know that a lot of moms are looking for help with sleep training, but here's my particular situation: Our son is 20 months old and currently a cosleeper, always has been. His crib is in our room, and we don't have the option of moving him to another room due to lack of space. His current method of going to sleep at night involves me holding him until he falls asleep (usually on the couch) and then transferring him to our bed, or he will fall asleep in our bed very quickly. Is it a good idea to just start putting him in the crib at bedtime or should I let him fall asleep his usual way and then put him in the crib? I know that if I just plunk him in there and walk away screaming will ensue, however if he wakes up in his crib he will start crying anyways (which is the whole reason he's been cosleeping in the first place). Does anyone have any experience with having a baby sleep in their crib that is in your bedroom? I'm okay with some crying and expect it, but I don't know if I should put him to sleep first and then put him in his bed, or try to get him to fall asleep on his own in his bed.


September - posted on 01/24/2013




Personally I think it's best to let children learn how to put themselves to sleep. Well with the exception of really young babies. So in your case I would just let him fall asleep in his crib. However if he's just screaming his head off you could allow him to fall asleep in your bed and then move him to his crib. If he wakes at night you could either walk over by him and try comforting him from his crib or if that doesn't work you could move him to your bed until he falls back asleep and then move him back into his crib. We never co-slept with our son. He loved his crib. However we did go through a phase of him wanting us to lay with him once we moved him into his big boy bed until he would fall asleep. You just have to find what works for you and your family and stick to it. Good luck!

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