sleepover on school night

Sarah - posted on 01/08/2012 ( 9 moms have responded )




Should i let my 8 year old or 5 year old got to a friends house on a school night? What about a cousins house? should i have their friends come to my house or let them go to theirs?? Should i let there cousins or friends come over to my house ??


Jodi - posted on 01/08/2012




Nope, school nights are off limits in our house. Even for my 14 year old.


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Ev - posted on 02/13/2014




I do not really think its a good idea for the very reasons all the others said. When I was a kid, we did do over night sleep overs at grandma's house during the school week but that was because of things going on and parents had no choice. Usually though, if we had to have grandparents watch us they came to our house. When I got into high school and we had moved to where my aunt, uncle, cousins, and grandparents lived, I did a lot of over nights with grandparents. I had to do homework, I helped grandma with chores, and I had to be in at 10 p.m. on a weeknight if I went out with my boyfriend at the time. I would stay mostly one night because of being in 4-H with my cousins because that was my only way to get there. My own kids did not get to go stay over night with friends on a school night unless it was an emergency and other family could not help us out. Other than that it was weekend only, or holiday.

Wade - posted on 02/13/2014




My wife let's my 11 yr old stepdaughter and almost 10 yr old stepson stay over at a friend's house frequently. I always ask if they have done their homework and she says yes. It all started with her letting my stepdaughter go over after school for a few hours, and when she came home at 930 pm and homework wasn't done, I voiced my opinion that it's not a good idea. Then it was sleepovers as the other mom insists to let them stay and my wife does not tell her no. They are good kids, but I am against the school night thing. It just leads to too much freedom at a young age, etc etc.

Elfrieda - posted on 01/08/2012




I wouldn't. If it's at Grandma and Grandpa's and they're pretty strict about bedtimes, then sure, but not with friends. They wouldn't get enough sleep!

Sherri - posted on 01/08/2012




Our rules are no sleepovers during a school night. It doesn't matter if it is a family member or friend. They can go over for a few hours after school on occasion but I try and limit that to Fridays only due to homework. However, if I do allow them to go over they have to be home a few hours before bedtime.

Sylvia - posted on 01/08/2012




I wouldn't. DD stays up half the night when she's at a friend's house or has a friend sleeping over here. Fine on Erev Shabbat or Saturday night, but not cool on a school night.

Krista - posted on 01/08/2012




I agree with Sarah Colville. The odds of kids getting to sleep at a decent hour are a lot lower when there are two of them together to giggle and egg each other on. My mom's rule with me, growing up, was no sleepovers on school nights. I think it's a sensible rule, and plan on doing the same with my kids.

User - posted on 01/08/2012




Personally I wouldn't, but that's because I know my 2 are hell to live with if they haven't had enough sleep. Late nights may not affect yours in the same way.

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